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"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.

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@teganslaw wrote:

"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.


I think it's about the saying: letting someone get your goat. So not letting them see where you tie your goat would be--don't let people see the ways they can get you riled up, because they'll only use them against you. It's great advice. I like your dad @Jubilant.

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OK, thank you for the explanation. Not familiar with that remark, and it is good advice.

 

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@teganslaw wrote:

"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.


@teganslaw   If you tie your goat out front where everyone see's it then they will know exactly where to find that (your goat is your feelings).  If you keep it to yourself or tie it where they can't see it, then they  won't so readily be able to find it.  It's all about not reacting. That's what they want you to do.  By keeping your feeling in check you discourage them to even want to continue....if that makes sense. 

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@teganslaw wrote:

"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.


I think it's about the saying: letting someone get your goat. So not letting them see where you tie your goat would be--don't let people see the ways they can get you riled up, because they'll only use them against you. It's great advice. I like your dad @Jubilant.


@Porcelain   Dad didn't lecture a lot.  He usually just threw out one of his many one-liners.  I remember those more than Mom's lectures!! Like @teganslaw said, I didn't get it at first either but the next few times he used that line on me...I finally got it!  I was the kid that got my feelings hurt easily.

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@Porcelain wrote:

@teganslaw wrote:

"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.


I think it's about the saying: letting someone get your goat. So not letting them see where you tie your goat would be--don't let people see the ways they can get you riled up, because they'll only use them against you. It's great advice. I like your dad @Jubilant.


@Porcelain   Dad didn't lecture a lot.  He usually just threw out one of his many one-liners.  I remember those more than Mom's lectures!! Like @teganslaw said, I didn't get it at first either but the next few times he used that line on me...I finally got it!  I was the kid that got my feelings hurt easily.


@Jubilant 

 

Me too.  In fact, I still do.🤗

 

My mother didn't have any quaint sayings, but she did always tell me not to get upset and "freak out" when the boys teased me when I was a kid.  She explained that was exactly what they wanted and if I didn't play their game, they'd tire and quit and go tease someone that reacted.

 

So, the next time a little boy thrust a live garter snake in my face (ick!), I found my courage and instead of screaming I just calmly pushed it away.  The boy didn't know what to make of that at all.  Disappointed, he went away and never bothered me again.

 

I learned a lot from that one incident.😉

 

 

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@Porcelain wrote:

@teganslaw wrote:

"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.


I think it's about the saying: letting someone get your goat. So not letting them see where you tie your goat would be--don't let people see the ways they can get you riled up, because they'll only use them against you. It's great advice. I like your dad @Jubilant.


@Porcelain   Dad didn't lecture a lot.  He usually just threw out one of his many one-liners.  I remember those more than Mom's lectures!! Like @teganslaw said, I didn't get it at first either but the next few times he used that line on me...I finally got it!  I was the kid that got my feelings hurt easily.


@Jubilant 

 

Me too.  In fact, I still do.🤗

 

My mother didn't have any quaint sayings, but she did always tell me not to get upset and "freak out" when the boys teased me when I was a kid.  She explained that was exactly what they wanted and if I didn't play their game, they'd tire and quit and go tease someone that reacted.

 

So, the next time a little boy thrust a live garter snake in my face (ick!), I found my courage and instead of screaming I just calmly pushed it away.  The boy didn't know what to make of that at all.  Disappointed, he went away and never bothered me again.

 

I learned a lot from that one incident.😉

 

 


Boys have always had to learn that lesson very quickly. But it applies to girls as well.

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@Porcelain wrote:

@geezerette wrote:

@Jubilant wrote:

@Porcelain wrote:

@teganslaw wrote:

"Don't let them see where you tie your goat." I never heard that saying and have no idea what it means. I guess it's suppose to be good advice, but if my Dad said that to me I would draw a blank as to what he was talking about.


I think it's about the saying: letting someone get your goat. So not letting them see where you tie your goat would be--don't let people see the ways they can get you riled up, because they'll only use them against you. It's great advice. I like your dad @Jubilant.


@Porcelain   Dad didn't lecture a lot.  He usually just threw out one of his many one-liners.  I remember those more than Mom's lectures!! Like @teganslaw said, I didn't get it at first either but the next few times he used that line on me...I finally got it!  I was the kid that got my feelings hurt easily.


@Jubilant 

 

Me too.  In fact, I still do.🤗

 

My mother didn't have any quaint sayings, but she did always tell me not to get upset and "freak out" when the boys teased me when I was a kid.  She explained that was exactly what they wanted and if I didn't play their game, they'd tire and quit and go tease someone that reacted.

 

So, the next time a little boy thrust a live garter snake in my face (ick!), I found my courage and instead of screaming I just calmly pushed it away.  The boy didn't know what to make of that at all.  Disappointed, he went away and never bothered me again.

 

I learned a lot from that one incident.😉

 

 


Boys have always had to learn that lesson very quickly. But it applies to girls as well.


@Porcelain   That's a good one!  If you can stand up to a snake, imo, you can stand up to about anything!  I did get over my easily hurt feelings in grade school.  Yes, it would be nice to have discussions without snark and name calling but more and more that seems unlikely. I do believe that a soft answer turns away wrath.  Also a soft answer is not what some people want to hear so they leave you alone for the most part.

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@on the bay  I love moving. I'm very organized and every box is marked and there is a list of what's in the box lol. I get to throw thing out and only keep what I need. I'm the person my family calls when they need to pack.


Over the years, I've moved a big house full of furniture and stuff around 6 times - by myself. This last move 20 yrs ago - was the worst - as I was a lot older. I never threw out anything.