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[Ibby114]

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@chickenbutt wrote:

I agree with others about meeting people in a place where you have some interests in common.

Meeting men on the internet is just the 21st century version of meeting men in bars, only it is way more dangerous.    If you must do this, just tread lightly, don't give out too much personal information, and only meet in public places.  Still, though...

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This is how you should tread if you  meet someone in a bar as well ! Good judgement is essential any way you meet someone new.

[Tinkrbl44]

Gals, I know this will be a bit of a downer, but it's a fact of life  ......

I know two women who wanted to find a man to spend their later years with, and neither gave much thought to how it would play out .....  and both are now practically full time caregivers for their sick husbands!!

Statistically, men live 7 years less than women,, so, theoretically,  an older woman should look for a guy that's at least 7 years her junior ....  okay, I'm slightly kidding here .... but it's a serious reality to consider.  

IMO, it's one thing to spend your long time husband's last years caring for him, but to be that person for a man you've known for only three years is something else entirely.  

In a perfect world, he has a great "long term care" insurance policy to cover home and nursing home coverage.

Again, sorry to bring this up, but women do frequently  find themselves in that situation, and we should all go into new relationships with eyes wide open.

Tink

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

Gals, I know this will be a bit of a downer, but it's a fact of life  ......

I know two women who wanted to find a man to spend their later years with, and neither gave much thought to how it would play out .....  and both are now practically full time caregivers for their sick husbands!!

Statistically, men live 7 years less than women,, so, theoretically,  an older woman should look for a guy that's at least 7 years her junior ....  okay, I'm slightly kidding here .... but it's a serious reality to consider.  

IMO, it's one thing to spend your long time husband's last years caring for him, but to be that person for a man you've known for only three years is something else entirely.  

In a perfect world, he has a great "long term care" insurance policy to cover home and nursing home coverage.

Again, sorry to bring this up, but women do frequently  find themselves in that situation, and we should all go into new relationships with eyes wide open.

Tink

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What if your married  wouldn't that apply as well? My Mom became a widow at 60 she had been married to my Dad for forty years at that point.  She never remarried and I think it would of served her well to meet someone else.

[Tinkrbl44]

I don't disagree with you at all .....  just relating to what I've observed, and none of us has a crystal ball.

[ROMARY]

Yes, it's much better to first think about things, in general.  That includes all women, all ages. 

[AliJoi5]

My cousin met his partner of 13 years on Match.com.  We were all surprise when we learned he had joined, because he was always swimming in beautiful women.  I just think he was looking for something a little different.  And let me tell you, they are two of the most contented people I have ever met.  My family absolutely adores her... I honestly cannot imagine our little unit without her now.  We've all had our lives enriched by this, not just my cousin.

So continue to put yourself out there and GOOD LUCK!!

[chrystaltree]

It's sites!  Sorry, I had to say that "sights" was driving me crazy...lol

[hsawaknow]

I found my POF password and updated my profile. I might cancell eharmony. More choices on POF

[Ibby114]

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@chrystaltree wrote:

It's sites!  Sorry, I had to say that "sights" was driving me crazy...lol

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Same here- but I was trying not to go there!  

[MaggieMack]

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

Gals, I know this will be a bit of a downer, but it's a fact of life  ......

I know two women who wanted to find a man to spend their later years with, and neither gave much thought to how it would play out .....  and both are now practically full time caregivers for their sick husbands!!

Statistically, men live 7 years less than women,, so, theoretically,  an older woman should look for a guy that's at least 7 years her junior ....  okay, I'm slightly kidding here .... but it's a serious reality to consider.  

IMO, it's one thing to spend your long time husband's last years caring for him, but to be that person for a man you've known for only three years is something else entirely.  

In a perfect world, he has a great "long term care" insurance policy to cover home and nursing home coverage.

Again, sorry to bring this up, but women do frequently  find themselves in that situation, and we should all go into new relationships with eyes wide open.

Tink

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I get what you're saying, @Tinkrbl44, but sometimes life has other plans. My hubby was 8 years younger than I, and I thought that would work out well, leaving about the same time. He died at 50, and I'm still going strong at, well, whatever!  You just never know, and I think if love finds you again, you have to follow that path.