DOES IT MATTER TO YOU - Page 5

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

We usually choose to go out to a favorite restaurant the day before or after Valentines Day. We go for a late lunch if they are open before dinner...and then usually volunteer to watch the grandkids so DD and hubby on 2/14 so they can go out to dinner themselves.
You are fortunate to have such a thoughtful husband who clearly cares about you!

CAcableGirl2 · ‎06-03-2010

@rms1954 Please remember that you deserve to be appreciated and loved, and don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.

I encourage you to talk to someone if you can, and if there are options for you, please consider them.

Everyone deserves to be happy and even though you have dealt with this for 35 years, that doesn't mean that you to continue to do so.

My MIL was married for 35 years before her divorce, and told me she had 5 happy years out of those 35.

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone, and whether or not you get showered with gifts, don't get any gifts, or spend the day alone, I hope you have a nice stressfree beautiful day.

......You look like I need a drink.....

homedecor1 · ‎03-09-2010

@Goodie2shoes

You are a lucky lady...enjoy!

With reference to your question -- no !! And it is my "fault" many moons ago when my boys were young & we we're starting out -- he would buy me from the boys a nice arrangement, flowers, etc.

One year (30+ ago) I stated "we are saving to send the kids to private school please don't spend money on non-essentials like this".

Well he listened and after this never saw another gift,flower or card & god knows he can afford it now...🤷‍♀️🤔

sissel · ‎08-13-2010

Married 42yrs and he isn't romantic but he never says no to anything I want. Retired now go out to lunch 3 times a week, had to get stools for kitchen island ordered on line told him that it needs to be put together but after delivered next morning it was done, he wakes up early and just did it. We don't exchange Christmas, Birthday gifts cuz we just get what we want all year. Plus he is the worse gift giver. He is a nice guy so I think he is a keeper. Enjoy your Valentines and also enjoy everyday of your marriage. Romance comes in different forms, I get the kitchen stools put together or other things around the house, just lets me do my thing. That is my romance LOL

SuhseK · ‎08-19-2018

@ahoymate wrote:

hopi, & other, whoever:
It's not a bad day or depression it's how some women like to elevate themselves at others expense. Surely, you are old enough to have experienced this? High school behavior.

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It's high school behavior, to praise her husband, and ask a question?

How is this elevating herself at others expense?

Sorry if VD is not good for you, but, why assume the worst, of a post that sounds innocuous, to me?

SydneyH · ‎03-10-2010

Heck no, I truly do not put any weight into overpriced flowers or cards.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

I don't really care for forced gift holidays where gifts are expected. It's great and fine to want things on V day and other special days though but for me it's how my SO of over 30 years treats me daily. We have issues as relationships are hard so not saying we have a fairytale life. A hug and smile when I need it, getting a favorite treat I like and the simple little things he does just because are worth way more to me.

I just don't get why anyone would try to make OP's post more than it is and why anyone would begrudge others of happiness because they are not. Some of the most positive people I know have so many reasons to boo hoo about the bad breaks they have in life.

chiclet · ‎03-19-2010

We ignore the day...We eat out a lot so a meal out would not be anything special. He has awful taste in gifts so would rather not have to pretend. Flowers die and for me a waste of money. So like I said we ignore the day.

fancy pantsy · ‎06-25-2014

it would bother me a little if he forgot ... but i know that he would not. but honestly, it's the everyday things that touch me more than the special days. like last week when he walked in with a bunch of bananas because he noticed that they were all gone and he knows i like one every morning. now THAT impressed me

@Imtep i want to wish you a beautiful today.

PinkyPetunia · ‎03-09-2010

No it doesn't matter to me. I never cared for flowers and I certainly don't want candy around. We go out to eat once or twice a week so we will certainly avoid restaurants on the day.

My husband is good to me in ways that are meaningful to us and I do the same for him. We always were a bit unconventional in the way we do things and I like it that way.