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[nomless]

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@Plaid Pants2 wrote:

At the time, I just dismissed the comment, but you know how at the end of the day, you reflect back on things that happened? 

That's all I was doing, reflecting.

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Don't waste your time trying to find things to be offended about.

[LilacTree]

I knew when people started telling me I looked "tired" (in my mid-forties) that it was time to get the bags (from hypothyroidism) removed from under my eyes.  So I did, and never heard those words again . . . still don't.

[RedTop]

I think the comment was very insensitive and uncalled for.  However, one of my best friends is wearing herself down trying to be all, see all, and do all, and it shows more and more every time I see her.   I constantly tell her she needs to slow down and get more rest, before she ruins her health.   Even as longtime friends, I say what I say with love and concern, and would never hurt her feelings.   

[Bird mama]

@Plaid Pants2

yea it was rude with a capital R

[Desertdi]

I used to always pick up my mother's prescriptions...........and the pharm assistant ALWAYS told me how good I look for "my" age..................

[Mominohio]

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@nomless wrote:

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@Plaid Pants2 wrote:

Yesterday, I went to Costco, to pick up my dad's prescriptions.

While I was waiting for the script to be filled, a woman, a total stranger, said to me as she walked by, "Oh, poor dear! You look so sick!"

Do you think what she said was rude?

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No.  She noticed your presence and offered what no doubt she intended to be kind words to you.  Accept her words as such.

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It appears that you can't even attempt to engage or be nice to many people on this forum. They just don't know what to do with it, but throw it back in a person's face, and try to humiliate or shame. (not speaking of the OP, but some of the responses here are beyond grasp).

[justmyopinion]

I would have said, "no I'm not sick, I'm just exhausted from having marathon, wild s-x with my lover all night and day. I'm here to pick up is Viagra precription, and you? What meds are you on, dearie?"

[libbyannE]

Some people are really trying to be kind and to reach out--but they do it all wrong, don't they? She was totally out of line, of course, but perhaps what prompted her was a kind heart. Different situation, but years ago, my beloved stepfather had been killed in a car accident, and my mom and I were still reeling from that when she was diagnosed with a brain tumor. After her surgery, she was in a coma in ICU due to brain swelling. As a young woman, I felt the bottom had fallen out of my world, and as I sat on a bench right by the ICU doors, waiting for the brief visiting time, a chaplain stepped up and asked if I needed anything. He told me that a stranger had seen me sitting there and found him. Different situation, but may be that stranger at Costco thought you needed a friend. How kind and busy you must be to be picking up your dad's meds.

[IMW]

Extremely rude. Try to forget it, otherwise she is living rent free in your head.

Who knows what her agenda is, she's probably some nut job.

[justmyopinion]

Many years ago when my Dad was dying, I was at his hospital bed for 45 days, sometimes sleeping at the hospital, and was physically and mentally drained and exhausted. One day when I left the hospital to stop at the grocery store a lady came up to me and said, you have such beautiful hair but it would be prettier if you would brush it out and use some styling products. She went on to say that it looked pretty bad and needed a good condition and color. I looked at her stunned and she said "well I'm a hairstylist and I KNOW these things." ----------Ugh, no you don't know these things. I was a walking zombie and had no time to do my hair because I was keeping vigil at my dying father's deathbed.