Ch ch ch ch changes.... - Page 4

suzyQ3 · ‎03-09-2010

@gidgetgh wrote:
@blackhole99 wrote:
Aging in general isn't for sissies, let alone when medical issues come with it.. I don't know how old your husband is, my husband is 77 and his health is good, yet when I look at him I can see the slow steady decline. I don't know how well I will handle anything serious or debilitating with my husband in the future, I know it will come. I know my faith will comfort me, but we still have to do the work, don't we. Good luck.

@blackhole99 - my husband is 76, will be 77 in March. I'm 64.

@gidgetgh, I am so sorry for what you both are going through. I hope that posting about it here can give you some comfort that you so deserve.

~Who in the world am I? Ah, that's the great puzzle~ Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Autumn Shimmers · ‎09-02-2018

Sending hugs!

AuntG · ‎03-09-2010

Very sad for the two of you. The chair was an excellent idea.

Venezia · ‎03-09-2010

@gidgetgh- I'm glad you feel able to share with us on this forum. I know there's nothing I can physically do to help, but at least you have a "safe place" to talk about what you're going through and many others can relate.

Sending you prayers and healing thoughts, for both of you.

"" A little learning is a dangerous thing."-Alexander Pope

roeroe1005 · ‎03-13-2010

@gidgetgh,

My heart goes out to you. It is so difficult, so sad, to see the people we love decline right in front of our eyes.

I was the main caregiver for both my parents. My dad outlived my mom by 10 years. He lived to be 97. Dad was a police officer in Italy, a big strong man. He was a gardener here. So strong with all the manual labor. The last 2 years of his life just broke my heart to see what he had become.

Everyone tells us to take care of ourselves first. So much easier said than done. But I do agree with the ladies here, do not feel guilty or upset with yourself if you need some outside assistance. Even if it's just a few hours a week.

You are in my thoughts.

Lindsays Grandma · ‎03-10-2010

@gidgetgh I was reading your thread and when I came to the words..."I adore him" is when I lost it. My heart hurts for you and I pray for you and your beloved husband. Getting the wheelchair was a great idea, I'm sure it takes away some of the stress knowing it is there at a time you need it. God Bless both of you.

The moving finger writes; And having writ, Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line Nor all your Tears Wash out a Word of it. Omar Khayam

happycat · ‎09-18-2010

Hugs to you @gidgetgh and your husband. I think you two are so blessed to have each other.

phoenixbrd · ‎03-27-2010

My heart breaks for you. I have been a caretaker and hope that you are able to find a few quiet moments for yourself even if it is an epsom salt bath or a cup of tea in the back yard. Of course, you are a loving and giving spouse and are consumed with your precious husband's well being. Love and light to the both of you during this challenging time.

lovesrecess · ‎03-14-2010

I am so sorry you are in the lonely, but heroic, job of caregiver. It is so hard and thankless. You sound like a very loving wife. I bought a transport chair for my mother when I just could not be sure I could help her when she would have weak spells and we were going to and from the dr.etc. The transport chair is different from a big, heavy wheelchair because it is not for the person to be wheeling themselves everywhere. The transport chair was much lighter and easy for me to move around etc. My mother was so relieved to feel safe when I bought the chair for her. So glad you have this now and you will find it a big help and piece of mind when you are taking your dear husband places. I will pray for you and your husband. Strength and comfort for you both. I actually bought the transport chair on QVC...and have now given it to a dear friend who has been using it for her husband after surgery.

VegasBusinessWoman · ‎05-27-2013

@gidgetghHaving walked in your shoes, I can understand the difficulty and heartbreak of your situation. My first husband was ill for several years before he passed away and I cared for him at home for as long as I could. You are on call 24/7 and watching the love of your life slowly failing. You feel as though no matter how hard you try, you cannot bring back the life the two of you once shared. It is a lonely road to tread.

My husband now is just beginning to make a comeback after a year of serious illness in which he required my care for everything. Even as he makes small strides in his recovery, I see that he is now a frail, weak man of 80 who needs more from me than ever before. I am grateful for every day I have with him, now more than ever.

Take heart that you are doing the work of the angels. Loving and caring for a loved one as they make their journey through the last years is exhausting but will ultimately be the most rewarding thing you can do. Don't forget to be good to yourself even as you do your best for him.