Community Chat

[silkyk]

Like the song goes "Don't want nobody that don't want me because  there's too many fish in the sea!!!!!!!!" Watch this and learn.....(turn it up)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C0eoi0yucJs

[Pearlee]

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@Spinach2 wrote:

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@Anniecamp wrote:

I'm sure the bride doesn't quite know what to do at this point.  Since these things cost thousands, I would definately have the guests come to a party!

No way would let it go to waste!  Once the initial awkwardness is past, all

could have a great time.  People can wear what they want to, and the bridesmaids can, as well.

As for the gown, I would sell it.

Sure, still a lot of money down the tubes, but at least the reception money would still be used.  I would even have the cake cut up and served, but maybe that's just me.  Wedding cakes cost hundreds of dollars these days.

The bride can hold her head high, these things happen.

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She's already sent out emails cancelling the wedding.  

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Let's hope everyone looks at their emails.  

[Irshgrl31201]

Oh I am sure she is so upset. Poor thing. As awful as this may sound though I am sure one day she will look back and be glad they didn't get married. I am sure she won't feel that way for a while but one day she might. I would definitely sue him for half the cost though. When a door closes, a window opens. I truly believe that. I have had things happen to me that upset me so much I didn't think I would live through it. Those things ended up pushing me a direction I needed to go but wouldn't have if not for it.

I had a co worker about 20 yrs ago who had dated a guy for 5 yrs. He proposed because she gave him an ultimatum. Her parents spent about $100k on the wedding and reception and he never showed. No call no note, no nothing.  She was so horrifically embarrassed and super devastated but she did feel a little responsible because she pushed him and pushed him to get married. He called her a week later and wanted to keep dating!!! She is now happily married (to a different great guy)for over 10 yrs and has two cute children. Her ex who was once rather good looking is now chubby and bald and single. He dated a girl a couple of yrs ago who left him and really broke his heart. What goes around, comes around. 

[Irshgrl31201]

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Mz iMac wrote:

Magic Johnson stood up his current wify, Cookie 3xs at the altar. 

The first 2xs was the NIGHT before the wedding.  The 3rd time was the day of the wedding. 

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My cousin cancelled her wedding AFTER all us bridesmaid spent $$$$$ on our dresses 2 weeks before the wedding.  To this day, no one knows why the wedding was cancelled.  The rumor in the family is that the groom wanted her to sign a pre-nuptual agreement.

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Oh wow, I didn't know that. Surprised she stayed with him after the first time let alone 2 more times.

[ValuSkr]

That's not good, how awful for her.  Well, awful for him too.  I guess you won't be giving her a gift afterall.

[Daisy Sunflower]

So sorry for your friend, but it's best he called it off instead of asking for a divorce later on.

[Mz iMac]

Or ask for an annaulment.

Joseph Patrick Kennedy II asked for & was granted an annaulment after he divorced wify #1 after 12 yrs of marriage.    He felt he was mentally incapable of entering into marriage at the time of his wedding.

An annulment would give the 1st marriage of 12 yrs the status of never having existed.

[SunValley]

I am sorry the bride experienced the last minute breakup. The stress of an elaborate wedding can really affect the bride or groom to the breaking point, and then they sometimes tie the knot in a simple, quiet wedding a year later.

I knew a couple that actually eloped two weeks before the wedding to save their sanity; they could not take all the pressure from the two moms over-organizing the wedding into something neither the bride or groom wanted. They fled to an out-of-state tiny resort town and contacted the local minister to perform the ceremony. Turns out the minister grew up in their same small hometown and went to school with their parents. Made the ceremony feel very special for the couple.

[Catty2]

That is so sad.  I would be devastated if I was the bride-to-be and don't think I'd be in the mood to hold the reception.  Hopefully, she will eventually realize that it was for the best that she didn't marry him.  And I certainly hope he is helping out with the cost of everything.   

[chrystaltree]

Years ago, before I was even msrried. My friend's sister cancelled her wedding a week before.  They were from Sri Lanka but the girls grew up here and were American girls.  It was an arranged marriage but not forced.  The groom arrived a earlier so the two could get acquainted.  The bride accepted the arrangement and a huge wedding with guests from all over the world was planned.  They were Catholic but there was to be a  church wedding and a week later a Hindu ceremony.  The plans took almost a year.  And then the bride said she didn't want to marry the man, she liked him but didn't love  him.  I knew the family well.  The father was livid, furious.  He was ok with her decision, disappointed but ok with it.  He was angry with her for waiting so long to be honest.  She embarrassed, inconvenienced and made people travel from all over the world for nithing.  He lost $$$$.  They went ahead with the reception but turned it into a party for for family and friends.  I was there, it was gorgeous and fun.  The jilted groom was even there doing the electric slide.  The bride was sent off to do graduate work in London.  When she came back a year or so later, her father forgave her.  But her mother never did.  I lost contact with them several years later, we all moved on but at that time the mother still totally shunned her run away bride daughter.