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On 12/27/2014 chickenbutt said:

I'm probably just from another planet, but I could never get with the whole registry thing. You know people will bring gifts (unless you request no gifts and then some people will have to make it all about them and bring gifts anyway), but to actively ask for the gifts always skeeved me out.

Perhaps the original meaning of the registry just got lost in time and it didn't used to seem so 'gift grabby', as it does now.

ITA. I hate those things. I don't buy from them.

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On 12/27/2014 Holly Jolly JingleBells said:

I agree, some couples go overboard selecting things, but there is no rule that you must purchase the gift off the bridal registry. Select something of your choosing, and since this is a shower gift, not the wedding gift, you have lots of options. You could put together a kitchen gift of tea towels, measuring spoons and cups, maybe a couple kitchen utensils or a pretty mixing bowl. A set of bath towels is always needed in a neutral color, or a set of sheets for their bed. You could always just give a shower gift for the bride like a short silky robe or chemise and some slippers, or a gift certificate to a lingerie shop. If you want to purchase something pricier off the registry, perhaps you could go in on a gift with another guest you know. For example, split the $100 kitchen tool set. Many times couples select things that are more of a "wish list" not expecting to get them all. I'm sure whatever you give them will be appreciated.

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I've been thinking that, if we purchase the gifts online, have them sent to the designated house, there's no way we would know if they were actually delivered/received. I recently read another thread where many posters stated that the couples don't necessarily send out thank you cards anymore.

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I would bring a beautiful basket, filled with nice items as suggested here. Something that looks nice and cheerful. Maybe tied with a beautiful satin bow/ribbons. A bride always enjoys receiving 'special' gifts. And the guests always 'Oooooh and Ahaaaa' over those items the most!

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On 12/27/2014 ROMARY 1 said:

I've been thinking that, if we purchase the gifts online, have them sent to the designated house, there's no way we would know if they were actually delivered/received. I recently read another thread where many posters stated that the couples don't necessarily send out thank you cards anymore.

I always get email delivery confirmation on gifts I purchase on line.

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When I was a new bride in the 1980s, I had a "gift list" that went to all the relatives on both sides. The items were things we wanted/needed, and I tried to be broad with descriptions, like "frying pan" rather than "$90 frying pan from store X". My side got me things from the list, his side got me random junk that wasn't on the list and was no use to us, but obviously appealed to them.

I particularly hated the peach candlewick bedspread, when I'd asked for white or floral duvet covers. And the rainbow striped towels, when I asked for white or blue.

Yeah, I'm a steamin' ingrate. But I always either buy off the list, or, if the list is silly-expensive, give a gift card or cash. The stuff we got, we gave to Goodwill.

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Adelle: Around here, unfortunately, 'they' (won't mention which one) (not USPS postman) just 'dump' packages on porches, and run off. (As we daily observe walking around the neighborhood.) I guess that's why I'm a bit leery about wedding gift deliveries. I suppose in other areas, they ring doorbells and ask for signatures, etc. I'd feel much better if the bride/groom could pick up their gifts at their local store(s). But, I do realize that it would be much too time-consuming.

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Clover: I'm guessing that some folks can't afford high-priced items for shower gifts. But, teaming up with a couple of the guests is a good idea, as someone previously mentioned.

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I've decided to do what Jules suggested.

A pretty set of mixing bowls with measuring cups, measuring spoons, wooden spoons, wire whisk and a favorite recipe with the non-perishable ingredients measured into a mason jar.

I was so upset when I read the registry...

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Sounds like a wonderful gift Celtic! No need to be upset when they were just being greedy. It will all work out fine. Hope they have a beautiful wedding for you to enjoy!

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