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Did you hear that thud, it was me falling off the chair.

A $400 set of pots, $90 frying pan, $200 roasting pan, $100 kitchen tool set, $350 for a knife set in the wooden block.

If she had to buy them herself I doubt she would.

Honestly there is nothing on the registry I can afford to give as a shower gift.

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How about a gift certificate at the store where the bride is registered?

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Unless we are especially close, I rarely spend more than $50 on bridal registry purchases.

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I would either give cash or a gift card from the store where she is registered...

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A ""good"" registry has items of all price ranges. Guess she did not read the articles!

I agree with the others. Get her a gift card.


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They dream big. Gift card to that store or cash. Maybe if she gets enough store cards she can by ""cheaper"" versions of what she listed.

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I agree, some couples go overboard selecting things, but there is no rule that you must purchase the gift off the bridal registry. Select something of your choosing, and since this is a shower gift, not the wedding gift, you have lots of options. You could put together a kitchen gift of tea towels, measuring spoons and cups, maybe a couple kitchen utensils or a pretty mixing bowl. A set of bath towels is always needed in a neutral color, or a set of sheets for their bed. You could always just give a shower gift for the bride like a short silky robe or chemise and some slippers, or a gift certificate to a lingerie shop. If you want to purchase something pricier off the registry, perhaps you could go in on a gift with another guest you know. For example, split the $100 kitchen tool set. Many times couples select things that are more of a "wish list" not expecting to get them all. I'm sure whatever you give them will be appreciated.

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I have a feeling she is going to have a whole lot of cards to open and not many packages!

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I'm probably just from another planet, but I could never get with the whole registry thing. You know people will bring gifts (unless you request no gifts and then some people will have to make it all about them and bring gifts anyway), but to actively ask for the gifts always skeeved me out.

Perhaps the original meaning of the registry just got lost in time and it didn't used to seem so 'gift grabby', as it does now.

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jules, such good ideas - nice post :-)