Re: Are you lonely?

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

I also suspect that a lot of extroverts think "alone" and "lonely" are the same thing. They just don't get it..

Marienkaefer2 · ‎03-09-2010

Being an introvert does not mean you are a loner.

I'm an introvert, yet I've had jobs where I've had to constantly communicate all day long with diverse groups of people.

I've had to make speeches to large groups of people on a regular basis.

I've had a wide circle of friends.

The difference is, at the end of the day, I needed to come home and be quiet and power down.

My weekends were very quiet after a particularly busy week. I remember friends, and even boyfriends getting annoyed with me because I wanted to have quiet weekends just puttering around the house.

I can't cram too many events into a certain timeframe.

Weddings and large parties give me agida, but I power through, then come home and collapse.

Long intense conversations are great, then I need to be left alone for 24 hours! lol

I like and need my alone time. But I don't think of myself as lonely.

If you have a garden and a library, you have everything you need.--Marcus Tullius Cicero

foggy! · ‎03-10-2010

No, I don't feel lonely. I don't have time to feel lonely, I have a big busy family that is going in several different directions most days, so my mind doesn't linger anywhere long.

I am a control freak, so I do enjoy weaving several lives every day, but I also enjoy alone time. I'm not lonely. I don't crave people. I'd rather thay stayed out of my face so I can get all I want done in a day!

Shorty2U · ‎03-09-2010

No I am not lonely but I dont like to be alone. I never did. It was hard for me when I couldnt work anymore because of my back, I get bored easily. I still get bored when my husbands at work. lol.

Probably that is because I went from living at home to married, then with 2 kids, then divorced 19 years later. Then I met my current husband 7 months after my divorce and have been with my husband since of course. I had trouble in between marriages when I lived alone in my apartment for a little bit. I hated it.

I actually had my grandkids over then part time during Summers and such while my daughter and son in law worked. Now theyre older, my daughter isnt working right now and I miss my grandkids being here part time that yes I have already sat here near tears. (I still see them for birthdays, get togethers, holidays etc. but it still bothers me). So I find little odds and ends to do around the house. I cant drive anymore so Im stuck in the house when DH is working and I live about an hour from my kids/grandkids. Soon my son will live further when he gets married!

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make~ The Beatles

apple1964 · ‎08-07-2013

I have always been around people.. I come from a large family always had a lot of friends. Came from Brooklyn NYC where I grew up knowing all my neighbors who looked out for all the children in our big apartment building. I got married had children of my own family still live very close by and friends are 5 minutes away by car. No wonder I like to get away by myself [whew] to go shopping by myself is a gift to myself... good thread O/P.

LilacTree · ‎03-25-2012

@Shorty2U wrote:
No I am not lonely but I dont like to be alone. I never did. It was hard for me when I couldnt work anymore because of my back, I get bored easily. I still get bored when my husbands at work. lol.

Probably that is because I went from living at home to married, then with 2 kids, then divorced 19 years later. Then I met my current husband 7 months after my divorce and have been with my husband since of course. I had trouble in between marriages when I lived alone in my apartment for a little bit. I hated it.

I actually had my grandkids over then part time during Summers and such while my daughter and son in law worked. Now theyre older, my daughter isnt working right now and I miss my grandkids being here part time that yes I have already sat here near tears. (I still see them for birthdays, get togethers, holidays etc. but it still bothers me). So I find little odds and ends to do around the house. I cant drive anymore so Im stuck in the house when DH is working and I live about an hour from my kids/grandkids. Soon my son will live further when he gets married!

@Shorty2U

Your current life is very similar to mine. Except I am not married and do not have a son.

Formerly Ford1224
We must always take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Elie Wiesel 1986

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

Question for all the introverts (and semi-introverts, ha ha):

When you are enjoying your alone time, how do you feel about "sound"? Do you prefer where you are to be quiet, or do you prefer "background noise" ? (TV or radio)

When I'm enjoying my solitude, even having the radio on seems like unwelcome "noise", and I'll keep it off.

What's your preference?

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

More often than not, I do like some sound (tv, music, etc) when I'm alone.

As long as it's only one sound at a time, I'm good. When there are competing sounds, or my worst nightmare - two or more people talking at the same time - this is when my head explodes.

I think that's mostly due to the tinnitis. It makes it only possible to process one other sound at a time.

I can still feel alone because the tv, or whatever, isn't interrupting my being alone, or my sense of peace (if that makes sense).

cotton4me · ‎03-09-2010

I'm an introvert, but I like having the TV on when I'm home. When I'm outdoors walking in nature I prefer listening to the sounds of nature - no music or Ipods. I find it somewhat jarring when someone runs by with music blaring.

SunValley · ‎04-19-2010

I only truly felt lonely once, and that was when I was on a work assignment in another city for 2 months and ate every meal and spent every evening by myself. No cell phones then. It was brutal. I was overjoyed when that assignment ended. I have never had that experience on any other assignment. I am alone most of the time but do not feel lonely.