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[Sooner]

@SouthernBee   Good planning!  We worked for about 6 years getting down to what we wanted and buying furniture in anticipation of a new house!  We got rid of a ton of stuff and bought a bigger house!  LOL!!!

We used a smaller moving crew, local that have a town-haul sized fleet of trucks, so we were able to move almost room by room.  And in the end they weren't that expensive, they were clean and polite and worked like crazy.  that really made things go smoother!  

I think the people at the Salvation Army thought we'd lost our minds!  We moved that house and closed two more for relatives.  I do NOT want to do that again! In abou a 10 year span. 

[alicedee]

@halfpint1 Remember....assisted living is NOT the same as a nursing home/convalescent home.  In an assisted living setting you have your own little apartment.....bedroom, living room, bath and small kitchen.  You may share the kitchen/living room with another person....or not, depending on what you choose.

You can continue to cook your own meals or go to the dining room and participate in the meal program.  There are lots of planned activities....crafts,  cards, they bring in musical entertainment, field trips, etc.  There often is a small bus that takes residents to church, the grocery store, etc.  

You can choose to be social....or stick to your own rooms.  But if an emergency arises, there are trained people right there to help.

Nursing homes are for people who have such serious health issues that they need full time medical care.  That doesn’t sound like you at all.

Give it some thought.  🌷

[SouthernBee]

@Sooner : Where did you find the energy and strength to move and still help relatives? Funny thing- I clean out and DH brings more home. Southern Bee 

[SouthernBee]

@alicedee : Great information. I am already thinking that if when and necessary what I can take: Sleeper sofa with a comfortable full bed- if someone visits and would like to stay overnight, my recliner, tv, small cabinet for my special things. Easy and just necessary items. Plus dealing with no stress and knowing help is available when needed. Provided transportation would be special. Southern Bee 

[alicedee]

@SouthernBee @halfpint1 My sister spent her last couple years in a very nice assisted living place.  She didn’t want to be “social” at first either....but as time passed, she got to be friends with some staff, and they encouraged her to use the dining room...so she finally started taking her meals there.

She was much younger than most residents, and had a great sense of humor....she ended up making many sweet friendships there.  When a new person would move in they would seat them at her table..,she had a knack for chatting and making them feel more at ease.

When it was finally time for hospice care for Sis, they let her stay right there...no moving to a different facility...and her friends among staff and residents were able to come in and out, and say their goodbyes, and she could be in her familiar surroundings with her “things about her.”

I won’t hesitate to use an assisted living facility when I can no longer live comfortably alone.  

[SouthernBee]

@alicedee : Thank you for sharing a very special and precious details about your family. For us now- I don’t drive and DH can do limited driving during the day. Our friends are getting older and dealing with health issues. Two of my closest friends in town are dealing with health issues and one has her DH dealing with stage 4 cancer in the lung and kidney. I miss the girls friendship and a chance to have a girls day out and dealing with some periods of being lonely and stuck in the house. I count my Blessings and stay busy with house stuff and try to call others and see if I can help them or make them giggle and laugh for a few minutes. No one will have to beg me to move to a better place if and when needed. Southern Bee 

[Sooner]

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@SouthernBee wrote:

@Sooner : Where did you find the energy and strength to move and still help relatives? Funny thing- I clean out and DH brings more home. Southern Bee 

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@SouthernBee LOL!  I didn't find it.  I had to do it!  With a helping hand from above and my wonderful husband!  

[Katcat1]

I am watching the Twilight Saga movies tonight.  They are actually fun when the wolves get involved and the vampires are flying very quickly around.

[proudlyfromNJ]

Watching SNL and listening to thunder outside. Cat under the bed.

[pigletsmom]

One of the reasons halfpint doesn't want to move is her cats. Assisted living might be more than she needs anyway. She might just need to downsize to a nice apartment. Sometimes an entire house is just too much.