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[jubilant]

It doesn't matter whether or not this  womans nice gesture changes the two mean spirited women...I agree, it most likely will not.  This young woman is wise beyond her years.  While it did hurt her feelings...it wasn't so bad that it changed who she was.  To have given her "the finger" or dirty looks.... would only have shown that they had "gotten to her".  This way.... she was not putting too much value, if any, in what they were saying and setting a good example for her child.  She didn't "back down".....she stepped up to the plate. 

[Mominohio]

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@baker wrote:

Sorry ladies, I don't buy into all this goodness and light stuff. They will just think this Dianne is a fool and move onto their next victim.

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I can't say you are wrong with this outcome, but it really isn't about them. If what she did didn't cause them to pause and think, or even feel bad, well, they are a lost cause and pretty much a waste of air.

What she did she did for herself. And her little daughter. She controlled her reactions to the anger, and the pain and brought forth her kindness. Her child saw this, even though very little, these types of encounters make impressions. She came out the better person, and did what was 'right'. No other response would have made a lasting impression on those two, and while this one might not have either, it certainly did make an impression on thousands of others, that will take to heart what they learned, so I'd say, she has a big win on her hands in more ways than one.

They are the fools, and while they may not get it, many more people see that, and perhaps see what fools they have been when doing something similar, or will go out of their way not to be the real fools in some similar situation, once they see this.

[gardensla]

Good for her for thinking rather than just reacting. Shows a depth that's rare.

I would have turned around and shown them my tears, if I were her.  People who are unkind need to be confronted with the impact of their words. If I said something mean and then saw the target in tears, I would be mortified and think twice in the future. 

[SaRina]

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@baker wrote:

Well good for Dianne, but I would have turned around and gave those bi--hes the finger. If you think calling them out with a cup of coffee made any difference to them think again, they would have remembered the finger.

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Dianne responded perfectly.  It might not change who these other women are but at least she didn't stoop to their level and she can hold her head high. If she had responded with "the finger" the women would have accomplished their goal of hurting and shaming her as they would know they got to her.

[foundinlv]

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@terrier3 wrote:

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@dooBdoo wrote:

Thanks, @nun ya and @Daisy Sunflower.  I guess we never know about stories like this one until they've undergone some careful scrutiny.  Once someone gets in the public eye as a role model of sorts it's not good if there are "skeletons in the closet."  At any rate, even if it's theoretical it's an interesting storyline for discussion.

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I think the story is more like a parable - something to be pondered and considered, not necessarily 100% accurate in every detail.

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How interesting.

[SydneyH]

Interesting, however the concept of kindness is clearly lost on some here.

[MyGirlsMom]

true...

[ROMARY]

Haven't read the actual topic or other posts..............It's nice to be nice.  My dad would always say: It's better to be good, in the long run.  But, sometimes it's a good idea to 'speak up'.  (Hi, June )   (Definitely not in this case toward the mom, though).  In general: Maybe to just 'get folks thinking'.  ......... As Judge Judy often says: 'Put on your thinking ears'........lol