A gift question

panda1234 · ‎04-27-2015

Two brothers graduated in June and had parties. Now they are moving away, one for more schooling and one for a job. There is a going away party for both, are more gifts expected? I don't know what to do.

Nataliesgramma · ‎03-28-2015

If the invitation didn't say "No gifts , Please"....then I would say yes...

CelticCrafter · ‎03-09-2010

If you just gave graduation gifts, I wouldn't give another.

Tique · ‎08-03-2013

@panda1234 my first thought was the same as @CelticCrafter's; however that was immediately followed by a question. Is this party being held at someone's home? If it's not at home and money is being spent for a venue, gifts are probably expected. If they're expecting second gifts and you don't take one, next time around they'll do you a favor and exclude you. Do whatever you feel comfortable doing.

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NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

I get invited to “gift grabs” all the time.This is how I handle them.If I’m close to the person I go & give a gift. But a smaller one than the one I just gave. If I’m not that close I don’t go & don’t send anything.

A couple of years ago I was invited to a birthday party,a graduation party, & an engagement party all for the same young man.I got all 3 invitations within about a week.I went to the engagement party & skipped the other two.

It’s not my responsibility to help someone pay for their venue.I’m a generous gift giver but will not be taken advantage of.My gifts are based on who is getting it & how much that person means to me.I’ve given bigger gifts at house parties & smaller ones at country clubs.JMO but it all depends on the situation.

Mistreatedbycs · ‎03-10-2010

Yes, more gifts are expected BUT

your gifts don't have to be expensive, for the boy going away for additional school, a "treat" box is perfect. Crackers, snacks, microwave popcorn and things like that in a small cardboard box.

For the boy going away for his first job....a nice pen would be perfect!

Sometimes a gift like "just thinking of you" is perfect.

Krimpette · ‎03-09-2010

Sure sound like a gift grab to me. I'd decline the invitation, unless I was really close to the individuals. Does every "party" require a gift??? I'd be embarrassed to expect gifts again after such a short time.

Danky · ‎08-04-2013

@panda1234 wrote:
Two brothers graduated in June and had parties. Now they are moving away, one for more schooling and one for a job. There is a going away party for both, are more gifts expected? I don't know what to do.

Hi @panda1234-------I believe that most parties or get-togethers require NO gift and I believe this gathering falls into that category.

However, if I felt that I didn't want to go empty handed, I would bring each a bottle of sparkling wine to celebrate the next stage of their life accompanied by a handwritten note wishing them well.

FranandZoe · ‎03-09-2010

My nephew got married (a few years ago) in February. They had a small "gathering" at the bride's parents' home. Six month later they had a traditional reception. As we gave them a wedding gift in February we did not give another gift at the reception.

I agree - gift grab. Greed. That's all it is any more.

No I would not give another gift.

Kachina624 · ‎03-10-2010

@Danky wrote:
@panda1234 wrote:
Two brothers graduated in June and had parties. Now they are moving away, one for more schooling and one for a job. There is a going away party for both, are more gifts expected? I don't know what to do.
Hi @panda1234-------I believe that most parties or get-togethers require NO gift and I believe this gathering falls into that category.
However, if I felt that I didn't want to go empty handed, I would bring each a bottle of sparkling wine to celebrate the next stage of their life accompanied by a handwritten note wishing them well.

Better check the age of these guys before giving wine.

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