Re: OT - Nerves...I need to calm down? - Page 3

ceekay · ‎03-12-2010

I was going to suggest L-Theanine also. The brand I use is Pure Encapsulations. You can take it throughout the day. I also take Holy Basil - one a dinner and 2 at bedtime and magnesium at bedtime. My problem is my brain never turns off therefore I do not sleep. So, my doctor had me try these and they seem to work to calm me down. My reasons for not being calm are obviously very different from yours. But I prefer more natural supplements to prescription drugs. Good luck to you!

ChynnaBlue · ‎05-22-2012

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. It must be really frightening.

Have you tried meditation or yoga? I did meditation when I was experiencing high blood pressure due to stress and it was a huge help. Yoga might also be good. Either way, make sure that you are able to set aside some important "me" time to let it all go each day. It's not selfish, it's taking care of yourself to better enable you to take care of others.

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ninjasmom · ‎03-25-2011

All of the suggestions are wonderful but if you are heading down the rosd to depression.you should seek medical help. It can really slip up on you,it did me under similar circumstances. If you start to deplete you serotonin levels everything you need to do will be much harder. I have a wonderful pysxh nurse practioner and she gave me klonopin for sleep. I sleep very well and it helps to reduce my daytime axiety'

My prayers are with you and your family,do not be ashamed to ask for help/

Tinkerbell3 · ‎03-10-2010

Breathing exercises and relaxation tapes at night are really helpful. I would also suggest taking walks. Use headphones w/ upbeat music or not. Get outside and take two 20 min walks a day!

I would also suggest a support group or individual counseling. You need to talk!!!

SOOO very sorry! ):

sharon818 · ‎10-16-2011

I'm so sorry. I was very young when pancreatic cancer took my father. It's a horrible disease for both the patient and the family.

I would not start the pills before you try something else. You are so stressed right now that it would be way too easy to use it without even thinking about it. Melatonin, chamomile tea and even some of the ZZZ-quil or tylenol PM (if you can take it) work for many people.

Have you asked your father's onocologist for a cancer family support group? They can help with a lot of different things, not just emotional support. Names of people to help with his estate...does your father have a will? They will help you with ways of getting things together, because so many have been where you are now. Once your mind has answers to so many of the questions you have right now, you might be able to sleep without pharmaceutical or alcohol assistance.

Best of luck with getting everything taken care of and good that you are doing it now. You might talk with your mom and see if she would like to take on some of the load - even if it's just one small thing - she probably needs a little bit of a project, and should absolutely go with you to any of the support meetings, meetings to take care of the estate...keep her with you so that neither of you feel completely helpless.

Don't forget to do something for you. Take an hour a day to just sit and do absolutely NOTHING. No phone calls, nothing. If you can get a massage, that will help. Set your alarm and just lay down and meditate.

Katcat1 · ‎07-21-2011

So sorry to hear about your dad. I hope he has a full recovery.

You need to see your primary care dr. and tell her/him how you feel.

Good luck to you.

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JoElla · ‎10-23-2013

I am so sorry to read this.

I also think you should have a very honest talk with your primary doctor. Stress and depression are very real, and taxing on you. I'm not saying you cannot deal with what is going on, or you are horribly depressed right now, what I am saying is, your doctor knows you, and if you need to be placed on antidepressants (for situational depression) or perhaps some anti anxiety meds, they will be able to do so. and perhaps even over the phone.

Also your doctor can help guide you towards things that might really work for you. Such as stress reducing excercises, meditation, making sure you are properly taking care of yourself.

Also please seek out a support system for yourself. Online groups are great, and you can access them anywhere. Or perhaps one in person. People and friends love you, and no matter what they say, they just don't truly understand what you are going through. Sometimes finding others who are living through what you are going through, is so helpful. It's just nice to be around people (online or in real life) who truly 'get it'.

And please remember, asking and needing help, is truly a sign of strength. You have a hard road to travel, so please don't ever forget, that sometimes we all do need a little help, and asking for it, is really, truly a sign of strength.

I wish you well, sending you and your family lots of love and prayers.

Silverandgold · ‎03-10-2010

So sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to anyone with a loved one who has a terminal illlness. I remember when my mom was sick & eventually passed. When she was first diagnosed, I went down in a heap (I was very close to my mom & my son was 7 at the time)... I saw my mom every day & also went thru the phase of crying every day. It was overwhelming not knowing what was ahead & just dealing with it. I eventually learned to take one day at a time & took a little break for myself each day & tried to keep negative thoughts away & live in the present. Tried not to waste any days we had worrying about the future. Through prayer, friends & educating myself, I did get to a place where I wasn't stressed every day. I found an inner strength & wish the same for you. My thoughts & prayers are with you.

RedTop · ‎09-01-2010

I am very sorry to hear of your Dad's diagnosis, and know this is a very trying time for you. I fully understand the tears in facing what has happened, and what's going to happen all too soon. There will be more tears, and that's okay. Yes, you must calm down and work this out in your head in order to have the peace from within to be the helpful and supportive daughter you want to be at this very difficult time.

Facing these situations for me personally, means I have stood in front of a mirror and talked myself thru the situation. Twelve years ago when my family got the terminal diagnosis for my grandmother my "facing it" went like this: "OK, this is what it is; Mamaw is 98; she has CHF, and the doctors have given her less than 6 months. You can't change, nor fix this, and this is what the doctor says is likely to happen. Mamaw's instructions were that she wants you to do this, and see to this, and this is what you need to do to be supportive to your Mom and Dad, and the rest of the family". I knew the things my Mom would immediately think about doing, and since she had no siblings left to help her, I tried to think of other details she would need to address, and help her with covering all needs. Once I face something and wrap my head around what I need to do, I find that I have all the peace and encouragement I need to get thru the situation. With my Dad, we had less than 2 weeks, and he never left the hospital. He's been gone 10 years now, and my heart is still peaceful and calm with his passing, and knowing I did all I could possibly do for him and my family during that difficult time. Wishing you well in the difficult days ahead.

highmaintenancejan · ‎03-09-2010

I feel so sorry for you. I think the best thing to do is go to your doctor and talk to him about it and he will decide the meds for you. You can't be of help to him if you are emotionally distraught. Don't be afraid to ask for help.