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On 2/24/2014 BellaCarro said:
On 2/24/2014 bbluvr said:
On 2/24/2014 PhilaLady1 said:

Someone complimented me a few years ago on the way down the steps to the subway about my fragrance. I thanked her and told her I was wearing Clean.

I can not remember any other time a stranger gave me a compliment. I don't give them much out either. I think living and working in a big city, people are more careful. Passing a stranger on the street, there's usually no waving, no smliling, eye contact generally avoided. There are exceptions, and I try to be the exception, but get tired of being the one to say hello neighbor only to be ignored.

I moved out of the city about 5 months ago, and people are so much friendlier.

Ha! I was born and raised in Philly. You do NOT compliment anyone or even make eye contact! {#emotions_dlg.scared} I just moved to Texas and it is SO much friendlier here.{#emotions_dlg.biggrin}

Another PHL native here. I miss hoagies and cheesesteaks and shoo fly pie.

When I went to Temple, everybody was friendly to everyone! It was the City of Brotherly Love. Don't know what happened!?

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I often have, even though I am an introvert (trying hard not to be). It's always taken as a complement and makes people happy. If I really want to know the fragrance or what purse, yep, I say I really like it and ask for details. I know it makes my day to receive one, so why not spread the happy moment of connection around?

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On 2/24/2014 BellaCarro said:
On 2/24/2014 magemay said:

Yes I have and did the other day.

I don't find it uncomfortable at all talking to someone I don't know, it just seems natural to me. It only takes about 20 seconds to brighten someone's day with a sincere compliment, or to make a connection without a compliment, which has lead me to many enjoyable conversations.

That is me to a T as well. Just my personality and probably why I was so successful working as a stylist in a dept store that had just opened. I just find it easy to approach people. My DH is exactly opposite and why I often accompany him to social business situations. Emphasis on a sincere compliment!

I just bet you were a hit as a stylist, BC. Smile

I'm a pretty good schmoozer myself. I have no problem at social settings striking up conversations, especially with someone who seems to be less able to do so. I think I inherited the trait from my dad, the gregarious soul that he was.


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On 2/24/2014 BellaCarro said:
On 2/24/2014 magemay said:

Yes I have and did the other day.

I don't find it uncomfortable at all talking to someone I don't know, it just seems natural to me. It only takes about 20 seconds to brighten someone's day with a sincere compliment, or to make a connection without a compliment, which has lead me to many enjoyable conversations.

That is me to a T as well. Just my personality and probably why I was so successful working as a stylist in a dept store that had just opened. I just find it easy to approach people. My DH is exactly opposite and why I often accompany him to social business situations. Emphasis on a sincere compliment!

lol, I hear you! My husband says there is no such thing as a stranger.

It seems as though people have a real need to connect and talk. There are times when I don't even have to say much and the next thing you know they are sharing all kinds of things.

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On 2/24/2014 Harpa said:
On 2/24/2014 BellaCarro said:
On 2/24/2014 bbluvr said:
On 2/24/2014 PhilaLady1 said:

Someone complimented me a few years ago on the way down the steps to the subway about my fragrance. I thanked her and told her I was wearing Clean.

I can not remember any other time a stranger gave me a compliment. I don't give them much out either. I think living and working in a big city, people are more careful. Passing a stranger on the street, there's usually no waving, no smliling, eye contact generally avoided. There are exceptions, and I try to be the exception, but get tired of being the one to say hello neighbor only to be ignored.

I moved out of the city about 5 months ago, and people are so much friendlier.

Ha! I was born and raised in Philly. You do NOT compliment anyone or even make eye contact! {#emotions_dlg.scared} I just moved to Texas and it is SO much friendlier here.{#emotions_dlg.biggrin}

Another PHL native here. I miss hoagies and cheesesteaks and shoo fly pie.

When I went to Temple, everybody was friendly to everyone! It was the City of Brotherly Love. Don't know what happened!?

Temple, did you say Temple?? My brother received his PhD from there.

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On 2/24/2014 BellaCarro said:
On 2/24/2014 bbluvr said:
On 2/24/2014 PhilaLady1 said:

Someone complimented me a few years ago on the way down the steps to the subway about my fragrance. I thanked her and told her I was wearing Clean.

I can not remember any other time a stranger gave me a compliment. I don't give them much out either. I think living and working in a big city, people are more careful. Passing a stranger on the street, there's usually no waving, no smliling, eye contact generally avoided. There are exceptions, and I try to be the exception, but get tired of being the one to say hello neighbor only to be ignored.

I moved out of the city about 5 months ago, and people are so much friendlier.

Ha! I was born and raised in Philly. You do NOT compliment anyone or even make eye contact! {#emotions_dlg.scared} I just moved to Texas and it is SO much friendlier here.{#emotions_dlg.biggrin}

Another PHL native here. I miss hoagies and cheesesteaks and shoo fly pie.

Snit on a Shingle??

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I compliment strangers all of the time. Why not? It doesn't cost anything to be nice.

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I'm a natural-born introvert, but I still do.

I instinctively like to make others feel good, whether its about themselves, their child, or their pet. And it gladdens me to see their eyes light up at an unexpected compliment.

I've always been moved by this wonderful quote:

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On 2/24/2014 rondell said:

I compliment strangers all of the time. Why not? It doesn't cost anything to be nice.

I do too and I have also received compliments from strangers--compliments on shoes, clothing, hair. (not every time I'm out!)

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On 2/24/2014 willdob3 said:

BTW, I never, ever ask a stranger where they bought something. That is rude, IMO.

I agree.