quick question ....

Lostandscared · ‎02-05-2011

Would you rather stay in an unhappy relationship because you are scared to be on your own financially and 60ish.....or take a chance to maybe find happiness on your own.

Desertdi · ‎03-13-2010

I can't answer that question......but I will say this:

EVERY woman should have her own secret bank account.

♥Surface of the Sun♥

Mombo1 · ‎11-02-2015

@Lostandscared wrote:
Would you rather stay in an unhappy relationship because you are scared to be on your own financially and 60ish.....or take a chance to maybe find happiness on your own.

I would never stay in an unhappy relationship regardless of my age or finances. Being unhappy will take a greater toll on you over time. Have faith and move on. Focus on yourself.

MalteseMomma · ‎03-09-2010

@Lostandscared At 82 yrs old ,the only advice I can give you is to never depend on anyone else to make you happy.... look for your happiness within yourself,not in another person.

Think about it....what do you like in life...... find things you love and do them,then you will never have to make a decision like this again.

Puppy Lips · ‎05-09-2010

Depends. If the significant other is abusive to me, physically or emotionally, then I would get out without thinking twice. But if I fell out of love, or there was no passion, I think I would stay and just find and do things that made me happy. I would make friends and join activities and keep busy.

Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else. Margaret Mead

LizzieInSRQ · ‎12-27-2010

I've always lived on my own. Except in my 20s i had room mates. I don't have an executive job 30 yrs later but I can support myself, no real extras. I could never live in an unhappy relationship. Why? Because I don't have to. Make your life so you don't have to. Others see me as lonely and that is only that way because I'm not attractive to men. It's changeable if I was miserable. I find putting up with garbage is a worse way to live. Everything else is icing or it's out. Sending healing strength to you.

* edited to redo my math since im 54 and not 64

queendiva · ‎03-12-2010

Key question: are you married and for how long?

Start taking steps now to move on . There are MANY of us 60+ women out here who are single, divorced or widowed and loving our lives!

KathyM23 · ‎11-20-2010

Being that you are 60ish and hopefully relatively healthy and financially able to support yourself in what would probably be a scaled down fashion, I think it would depend on how unhappy you are and the reason why your relationship is unhappy. Perhaps you have friends and family who you can depend on to see you through a life change. A couple of good friends can provide good companionship to make a single life less fearfull.

Is it something that can be fixed and if so would that be a good alternative for you. Know that there is life after 60 as many of my friends and acquaintances have learned and that is not too late to find happiness.

Thinking of your current situation, keep in mind that you may have 20 years or more to be in this relationship. Try to imagine the next 20 years and that may help you see what you should do. If your situation is intolerable to you, the longer you wait to change it, the harder it will be to do so.

on the bay · ‎03-09-2010

Definitely the second choice!

I've never been afraid of not having money. I've been on both ends of having and not having.

A friend and I agreed that it is harder to go from having a lot of money to having not much at all.

Much easier if you start with nothing and then get a lot and then back to nothing cause you'll always be used to not having it.

That is what I think anyway.

Plus if I stayed in a very unhappy relationship, I would always wonder, "What if I could have been happy?"

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"