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[hckynut]

@luvGodUSA 

No words of encouragement to offer you.

I have always been outspoken and if I have something to say, I say it. What others choose to think of me is up to them. My life has never revolved around what others choose to think of me. My Immediate family and good friends, of course!

Assuming you husband is mobile and independent and likes going? I say to him, go!  My wife enjoys a lot of things that I do not. It's simple for us, she goes, I don't.  She no longer ice skates, I do, so I go.

Makes no difference to me if it is a church group or a hockey group, my actions would be the same. I like going, she doesn't! We have 2 vehicles and we both drive, that's it.

hckynut 

[Growing]

If you have a dislike or good reasons to change to another church, it would negate you if I tell you to ignore your true feelings. It's not right to say you don't matter but husband does. You matter and your reasons are valid. You have to value your own self more so that you see that your needs or desires matter more. Don't be a martyr to something that makes you feel bad or that you don't enjoy. Find a church that feeds your soul. Life is too short to be miserable at church. People change churches all the time. 

[CalminHeart]

Is there a reason you're hesitant to talk to your husband?  

I'm sorry you and he aren't happy at the same place.

I'm a retired boomer and can't imagine going to something as important as church if I was that uncomfortable, husband or not.  

IMO, there is something questionable about a church that has just a handful of members.  

I hope you can be honest with your husband and can find a church you like.

[qualitygal]

He may be feeling more secure in a smaller size setting of the congregation.  Consider this a trial basis and you're still trying out different churches in the area.  Keep searching and bounce back now and then so he's comfortable too.  Look at all the friends you'll make.

[chiclet]

I have always wanted to attend church with my husband as a couple but it has never worked out.  He will go to a church with me and be excited about it and then eventually someone says something he does not like or something is done he does not agree with and then he quits. Then if I go back I am asked about him and have to explain or give a short answer.  I find it better to go alone.  That way I don't have to hear him complain or explain him after he quits. He ruins it for me.  He will not go alone to a church but that is his problem.  We did not live together before we married but during the dating process I thought we were so alike and compatible.  How wrong I was.  We have survived this marriage by doing our own thing and not forcing the other to go along.  

[CANDLEQUEEN]

@luvGodUSA So what did you decide to do? How did your husband respond? Have you found another church? Please update us!