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[ChynnaBlue]

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@Goldengate8361 wrote:

It's ok to ask her for it; she probably forgot. No, she should not have asked to borrow money from you, but it's truly not that big of a deal. She is, after all, giving you an opportunity to earn a paycheck. She's doing far more for you. I suggest lightening up.

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No. I totally disagree with this.

A boss does not get to take advantage of people because they are giving you an opportunity to earn a paycheck. That's ridiculous.

[ChynnaBlue]

You should ask her to pay you back - that's not out of line and if you wait too long, the odds of her remembering get smaller and smaller and then she might not even believe she owes you anything.

It's poor form for her to ask you, but you aren't doing anyone any favors by not reminding her to pay you back.

I've gone to my office cafeteria and forgotten my wallet - it happens. But if someone covers for me, I always pay them back as soon as I get back to my wallet or buy them lunch the next day. 

[AngusandBuddhasMom]

As hard as this may be to accept your Boss did not put you into any situation. You did. She asked for money you could have said no sorry I can't afford to lend any, (Going shopping and I am already short this week etc.). I know that is hard but regardless if she saw the money or not it is yours not hers. Your projecting your guilt at not lending on her and then being mad at her for not paying you back.

Either sit and steam about it or go and ask and give her the benefit of the doubt she forgot to pay you. Just because she makes more doesn't mean she is not a ditz who goes into a cafe and forgets her wallet.  Or maybe she has a history of doing this to others either way get your money back so you can move on. And just say no if it comes up again.

[x Hedge]

No, she shouldn't have asked to borrow money from a subordinate, and certainly not a new employee.

I hate to ask people to return what they've borrowed. In a perverse way its like I'm insulting them, calling attention to their failure to return an item or repay a loan. (Raised with old world manners.)

You might try catching her in the same setting to jog her memory when you ask if she has your five dollars on her. I hope standing in the cafeteria, with you asking about "MY five dollars" does the trick.

[kivah]

She was very inappropriate asking you for $5.00. Definitely, ask her for the money back; otherwise, she'll do it to someone else. In the future, just say, you don't have the money.

[Bridgegal]

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@sandraskates wrote:

@Shop Till you Drop Being the miser I am I'd clip that in the bud now.

In a calm tone of voice I'd say something like "By the way, the price of the lunch has gone up so I'll need $11.00 to cover it."

And I'd make sure that I got $ before I bought her lunch.

Her behavior is deplorable. When it comes to my money I speak up.

I'd tell her it's gone up to $12.00 or more to start recouping some of that cash she owes.  

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