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[Love my grandkids]

@Sassycoco I've done it in many ways over the last decades but I see no reason to tell anyone or brag about it. It's between me and the recipient.

[CAcableGirl2]

Paying it forward - yes.  I can give you an example that happened last Friday.  I go into Panera Bread each morning to pick up a coffee on my way to work and there were about 6 or 8 CHP's all eating together at a large table.  I ordered the pastry ring for them and asked the Panera employee to deliver it to their table.  The lady behind the counter told me that one of those police officers had just bought something for a homeless person a few minutes ago - so my pastry was a nice treat for those who had just helped others.  I think that those who do good things for others, usually have good things happen for them (and their family). 

Absolutely, I try to pay it forward.  I have been blessed many times over and I get a lot more out of giving to others, then just keeping it all to myself. 

[SurferWife]

My feedback...I don't get this whole "paying it forward" thing.  It's thrown around as if kindness & compassion toward others didn't exist before "paying it forward" became society's term of the day.  I was raised to be kind & compassionate to others LONG before "paying it forward" ever came about.

[elated]

I think paying it forward is a term someone thought it would encourage kindness. IMHO, either you are a kind or caring person or you aren't. I always try to be kind and caring.I know many people are struggling and just need a kind word or gesture. I think we should rename it to "just be kind".

[RedTop]

Yes.

[SandySparkles]

When I read this thread, it made me think of one of my all-time FAVORITE songs on the subject! "Humble And Kind" by Tim McGraw along with the video that SUMS it up BEAUTIFULLY!! I always TRY, but of course sometimes fail to live by these very principles.😊 

"Always stay humble and kind".❤❤🥰

~~~All we need is LOVE💖 

[VanSleepy]

The meaning of pay it forward is that when someone does a kindness for you, they do not expect you to repay them, but would prefer you extend a kindness to someone else. I guess it has morphed into a general meaning of being kind. 

[Sooner]

The term seems to imply that you are doing something nice because something nice was done to you.

I don't believe in paying for kindness, or being obligated to. Just be a good, nice, caring person and don't try to put a balance sheet on it. Be nice.

Also, don't try to pay for other people's meals unless you are treating them and they agree.  Donate or give to someone who needs it. It just messes up accounting for the business, especially at the drive through and causes confusion. 

[Carmie]

My husband and I and our children always do acts of kindness for people.  We just do it, naturally. I wouldn't call it paying it forward.  It's just who we are.

I have a difficult time believing that some people can be rude and uncaring.

I took my sister to physical therapy last week,  I was sitting in the car waiting when I saw an elderly lady in a wheelchair trying to push open the door and and come out.  She was having a difficult time.  The wall inside the building has a button to push that will open the door, but I suppose she didn't know.

I was just about to get out of my car to help when I saw a man walking towards the door. So, I stayed put.

He opened the door and walked in and let the door close.  I couldn't believe he didn't hold it for her.  A lady inside then immediately opened the door and held it for her.

I just don't understand this type of behavior. How do people get this messed up?

[Enufstuff]

@Carmie  Entitled narcisists, it's all about them. Just watch how many people drive, that tells you a lot. So many just think of no one but themselves and don't know how to show any kindness.