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[jlkz]

@Effie54 

It may also help to consider how these folks developed the need for negativity and snarkiness as self-protection.

Narcissists typically strike first as a means to get another off balance.  Thus they are protected until the next opportunity.  Protection from many things which could have originated in their early upbringing or at the hands of control freaks, etc.  Google can provide a good overview.

Over my many careers, including ongoing exposure to a narcissistic lawyer uncle, I have managed / counseled quite a few folks with this behavior.  Don't let it impact your behavior...it actually has nothing to do with you or your posting.  Consider the possible origins for the development of the snark tendency and give it wide berth.

[minkbunny]

@cody2  Amen 

[cody2]

@minkbunny Right back atcha my friend.

[Effie54]

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@jlkz wrote:

@Effie54 

It may also help to consider how these folks developed the need for negativity and snarkiness as self-protection.

Narcissists typically strike first as a means to get another off balance.  Thus they are protected until the next opportunity.  Protection from many things which could have originated in their early upbringing or at the hands of control freaks, etc.  Google can provide a good overview.

Over my many careers, including ongoing exposure to a narcissistic lawyer uncle, I have managed / counseled quite a few folks with this behavior.  Don't let it impact your behavior...it actually has nothing to do with you or your posting.  Consider the possible origins for the development of the snark tendency and give it wide berth.

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@jlkz Thank you for the very helpful insight. I really appreciate that. 

[JoyFilled Warrior]

Cant tell ya how many times I've started, &/or composed a comment on any topic here, & changed my mind.  This for many of the same reasons/hesitances others have mentioned on this, & other threads. 

    And much holding back is not necessarily my flaming extroverted nature, so excessive caution is it's own addt'l task for an already often overwhelmed me.

Certainly, I dont come here for any grief.  Neither do I want to cause any one grief either. What's the point?   imho, life itself is already kinda difficult, assuming for most/all ppl!  I try to carefully, carefully select any push backs.

Now -   I feel less caution when persons here reveal their own incredible'ness, as often delights me here, and I try to express it to them.

I'm soo sooo grateful to my ever'luv'n, beloved QVC offering this venue. 

    And also so, so grateful for the MODs here who belly-up to manage such -  no small feat! 

[Parischic]

I hardly post anymore the boards have got divided again and unkind.

[Cakers3]

@jlkz

I had a bit of a smile about the Christmas glitter. We had multiple threads throughout the years from posters complaining about Christmas cards with glitter. Ho ho ho and a Merry Christmas to all. 😂😛

[JoyFilled Warrior]

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@Parischic wrote:
I hardly post anymore the boards have got divided again and unkind.

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@Parischic   Maybe, just maybe,  this can change??   Hopefully so.  We can try   

I'm asking my own personal Power Source, what I can do to help it be so.  

[Cakers3]

@JoyFilledWarrior

You already know what to do. You have always had the knowledge given since time immemorial to everyone.

What we do with it is not difficult. Every post is made with a conscious decision. An action which can be made with any type of intention.

See my siggie.

[tansy]

Have you asked to have the support group you participate in moved, @Cakers3? I'd be concerned that forum will be closed.

Husband's diagnosis was confirmed BTW.