Among Friends

[MoJoV]

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@DrakesMomma wrote:

@CherryHugs  -  I think your husband is completely correct!  

Here is what I know - you are stronger than you are aware. 

My mother-in-law has known me for 36 years.  In that entire time she has never told me I look nice, I do something well, I'm doing a good job with our son, nothing at all.  Sometimes my husband will say to me "mom said" this kind thing about you.  I don't believe it for one minute.   

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I think we have the same kind of mother-in-law. Mine never gave me a compliment ever. After years of marriage she asked me what color eyes I have!  They're bright blue.

[MoJoV]

@CherryHugs I think they're jealous of you that's why they resent you.  Keep being you and don't let them get you down. Miserable people can't stand to see others happy.

[Posh Poodle]

@CherryHugs  have you heard of Lauren Daigle? One of her many popular songs on youtube, "You Say", sort of speaks to your situation. The lyrics are very uplifting and encouraging. One of her recordings I like best is "Still Rolling Stones".

Lauren herself had health issues growing up and had to overcome obstacles. Inspiring testimony.

[CherryHugs]

@Posh Poodle  Wow thank you SO much. I listened and that is an amazing heart touching song!

[Posh Poodle]

You're so welcome @CherryHugs .

I am so glad it touched you.

Lauren has an amazing voice. She and Adele sound a lot alike.

I hope it helps and inspires you on this life's journey.

Nobody can steal your joy, identity and worth!

[RoughDraft]

@CherryHugs  I am confused by your statement regarding your "step family of 3 years."  Who are these people?

[GoneButNotForgotten]

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@ThinkingOutLoud wrote:

I don't care about compliments, especially about my looks. I prefer to be noticed for my talents, skills, abilities, kindnesses, contributions, etc.

[And maybe your humility too, huh? ]

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I do! and I know how the OP feels. I think it's normal to want to receive some positive reinforecement when you're trying your best to do your best. I don't know when the OP's general like is like so I can't comment on that.

[Cakers3]

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@SilleeMee wrote:

There are days when I feel invisible like no one sees or cares about me. Those days seem to come more often the older I get. I know that sounds sad and I'm not bragging, but I used to be a head-turner beauty with lots of influential appeal. It's gone now and I just live my life the way my cards have fallen. I haven't given up though. I try to keep looking my best and I don't give a hoot what others might think of it.

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@SilleeMee  You are one of the best around here. I read all your posts.

I know it is not the same as real life but you may never know how you just may have helped someone here.

Keep on being you.💐

[SilleeMee]

Thank you so much @Cakers3 

That was so kind of you to say that.

[Cakers3]

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@CherryHugs wrote:

I am 37 yrs old and should not need to get compliments from anyone!

But I rarely ever have gotten compliments from friends.

My Step Family has not given me any compliments in the 3 years I have known them. I mean not any! For how I look or am dressed, things I have done, nothing at all.

Yet they give each other in the family compliments all of the time! 

Being an insecure person without alot of self confidence-or-self esteem and being an introvert....All of this makes me feel so insecure!  Like I feel ugly or look stupid.

I always try and look my best with hair, clothes, makeup. I try to be friendly even though I feel shy and quiet! Plus I have a good sense of humor and say positive things when around others!

I feel Im a good person, and a nice person and good friend.  I treat others with  kindness and have respect for them.

Just not sure what to do to feel secure in how I am dressed or how I look when not one person says anything. 

It makes me feel very insecure and unworthy  person.  I know it sounds silly!

Has anyone here dealt with any of this? Has anything worked in dealing with this type of thing?

Oh, and I compliment others if I like their hair or outfit etc.

I am not sure I am   explaining all of this so it is understandable in how I feel.

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@CherryHugs  I cannot say they are jealous because even if jealousy is the reason it will still not diminish your hurt. It is a word used to make others feel superior and you certainly are not the type to feel you are better than another person.

You take the time to present yourself in ways that are comfortable for you.

The only thing I will say is continue to be you and try to learn how to look inside of you for validation.

I'm sorry you feel so ignored and while we all appreciate a kind word now and then it is better to learn how to nourish our souls and spirits by ourselves first.

One more thing - if they sense your insecurity they will go along with it.

You do you and try not to give your power over to those who cannot or will not be what you want them to be.

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