IVE BEEN MIA - Page 9

Etoile308 · ‎01-04-2014

@PABoater wrote:
WHAT?????

Why on earth are you posting your personal life info here????

@PABoater, why do you repeatedly question what others posters write about their personal life?

The thread was started in the Among Friends forum. It's a forum where posters often discuss personal topics.

Sometimes people just want to discuss what's going on in their life. The board is anonymous, so where's the harm?

DREAMON · ‎03-09-2010

When I was very young I would have just let it go and moved on but at my age (60's) I would probably call or text him to find out what was going on.

I would want to put my mind at ease by knowing what really happened.

I know this isn't what most would do but at this stage in my life I want to know exactly what is happening. I don't want to waste 1 minute on anything that is a waste of my time, energy, and feelings.

Best of Luck!

Luvsmyfam · ‎11-26-2019

@DREAMONThank you for your comment

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@elated wrote:
It's hard to give advice when so many pieces are missing to this puzzle. Why would one get so invested in a relationship that is relatively new. Like some have stated, Memorial day weekend was Monday today is Saturday.

Did it become more than just casual dating? Is that why you are so devastated? I know you had stated he was not one to make plans and everything was last minute..I think you need to get to know someone before you become so attached . What do you mean by fun? No one can help you stop crying if that is your intent by coming to the board. People come from different backgrounds and have different priorities.

I would not have deleted him from my phone because he hasn't contacted you in a week or has it been longer?? Life is too short to become so obsessed about a relationship that maybe was or wasn't.

@elated @Luvsmyfam

Unfortunately, too many times a "last minute" guy it can mean he's in another relationship or married.

He doesn't know if he can get away to go on a date until the last minute.

Just speculation on my part here.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@Lucky Charm HE texted me Last Thurs and told me his plans for the weekend.So when Monday comes and I hear nothing,I just had a awful gut feeling.
Some posters on here have said I am to needy.Unless they know me personally,they have no idea.Yes,I have reached out for opinions,and find most of them very calming,reassuring to me.One thing I am not is needy

@Luvsmyfam

There was a period of my dating where I couldn't believe some of the things men considered normal behavior.

They had what I call very poor RELATIONSHIP SKILLS.

I would like you to remember .... NOTHING in single life is as bad as a bad marriage.

You can just move on if they aren't what you're looking for. I'm just glad he didn't waste a couple years of your time ... and then disappear.

Look on the bright side with this one.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@pdlinda wrote:
@Tissyanne I disagree. I wouldn't "ambush" him.

I recall reading a book (they also made a movie) called "He's Not That Into You." Whatever answers you're seeking will probably be answered by reading that book.

The bottom line is (from what I recall) if he ghosted you after dating for awhile, he may have gone back to his former spouse, met someone new, or reconnected with someone he had a relationship with prior to meeting you.

I distinctly recall that the men interviewed in the book stressed that if he "was into you" and had any other type of problem (work/health/financial/children) he would have confided in you and included you in dealing with it.

Anyhow, the best of luck to you in finding the emotional strength to accept this situation and getting to the point of understanding that his obvious lack of respect for you by being so insensitive showed he has character problems that you're better off not being subjected to any longer.

@pdlinda @Luvsmyfam

Bingo! This happened to me. I'd been dating a very nice guy and we were really getting along.

Approximately ten months into our relationship he ended it very abruptly. I was in total shock. Nothing about this made sense, and I didn't see it coming.

About six months after the breakup he invited me to lunch to test the waters about perhaps going out again. I wasn't sure about it, but was determined to get together ... at least long enough to find out what REALLY happened to cause him to end things. I needed to know what had happened.

Well, it was a former girlfriend who got dumped and went back, crying and pitiful, to my guy. He still had feelings for her and ended things with me. It didn't last.

We dated for a little while, but then I broke it off. I just didn't trust him anymore. It was over.

pinkcrystal · ‎03-09-2010

Being ghosted is a nasty thing because it just leaves you hanging and wondering. Like other posters have said though, it is very much for the best because obviously this guy isn't "man" enough to just tell you what's going on.

He doesn't deserve you.

NYCLatinaMe · ‎01-14-2017

@pdlinda wrote:
@Tissyanne I disagree. I wouldn't "ambush" him.

I recall reading a book (they also made a movie) called "He's Not That Into You." Whatever answers you're seeking will probably be answered by reading that book.

The bottom line is (from what I recall) if he ghosted you after dating for awhile, he may have gone back to his former spouse, met someone new, or reconnected with someone he had a relationship with prior to meeting you.

I distinctly recall that the men interviewed in the book stressed that if he "was into you" and had any other type of problem (work/health/financial/children) he would have confided in you and included you in dealing with it.

Anyhow, the best of luck to you in finding the emotional strength to accept this situation and getting to the point of understanding that his obvious lack of respect for you by being so insensitive showed he has character problems that you're better off not being subjected to any longer.

@Luvsmyfam

I agree with @pdlinda. I would guess he went back to a past relationship that he most likely didn't share with you.

I wouldn't confron him, wouldn't approach him, I would let it go. If you see him I would smile, wave, say hi if I am close to him accidentally, and keep moving. Don't make him uncomfortable, just because you are. If he wants to talk, he knows where you are and can find you.

I do think you are very brave and strong to put your heart out there and date.

So you are also strong enough to let it go. It didn't work out. No lessons to be learned. Just not a match right now.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@Luvsmyfam

San Antonio Gal · ‎05-18-2017

I still believe communicating is the best route. He's a friend so what's wrong with calling to see how he's doing?

It just needs to be a friendly call to say hello. No interrogating or accusing. I don't understand why the female can't be the one to place a call. Why does she have to be the one waiting for the phone to ring?