Set up an account on Fedex.com. You can then set notifications about delivery, tracking, where to put deliveries, or whatever.
UPS, FedEx, USPS are not obligated to ring a doorbell. They have enough to do without babysitting someone's deliveries.
Perhaps Q or you accidentally set it to delivery to another location. Big deal. Unless the recipient is disabled, go get it.
Life is too short to be this upset.