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[Love my grandkids]

@ECBG Yes, I was sad and just so numb. Fortunately we had a wonderful neighbor, Christopher, who would come and check on me.

About a week later i  went to See's and bought a 1 pound box and killed it in 4 days. But I hadn't been eating much anyway so I didn't feel guilty. My doctor told me that was okay under the circumstances. My DH loved See's and I think that was part of why I did it.

[I am still oxox]

Saw this on Facebook and thought of you, sending much love and a million hugs

Instead of saying, "I know what it feels like", let's say "I cannot imagine your heartbreak".

Instead of saying, "You're strong, you'll get through this, let's say " You'll hurt, and I'll be here.

Instead of saying, "You look like you're doing well, Let's say, "How are you holding up today?"

Instead of saying, "Healing takes time", let's say "Healing has no timeline".

Instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason, let's say "This must feel so terribly senseless right now".

And when there are no words to say at all, you don't need to try and find some. Love speaks in silences too.

~ 'Words' by Ullie Kaye Poetry

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[qualitygal]

My deepest sympathies to you.  Sending  you a good hug.  No words.  

[matty liz]

What a beautiful group of women!  It would be a special to know each of you!

[roeroe1005]

@sarahpanda,

Please add my prayers as you deal with this g*d-awful situation with your dear hubby.  I'm so sorry.

The hardest part is as you are dealing with his final days, when he finally goes to sleep, you are in disbelieve - to say, how did we get to this.  (Speaking from experience.)

Just keep telling him you love him over and over, even though he knows it.  I wish him peace.

[DottieBlue]

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@matty liz wrote:

What a beautiful group of women!  It would be a special to know each of you!

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I completely agree, the posters on this board are special. 

Yes, we argue and squabble with each other at times.  But when one of us is hurting, needs help, advice, a shoulder to lean on, so many, many posters certainly step up to the plate and do their very best to help.

I am so glad these forums are here.

[manny2]

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@I am still oxox wrote:

Saw this on Facebook and thought of you, sending much love and a million hugs

Instead of saying, "I know what it feels like", let's say "I cannot imagine your heartbreak".

Instead of saying, "You're strong, you'll get through this, let's say " You'll hurt, and I'll be here.

Instead of saying, "You look like you're doing well, Let's say, "How are you holding up today?"

Instead of saying, "Healing takes time", let's say "Healing has no timeline".

Instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason, let's say "This must feel so terribly senseless right now".

And when there are no words to say at all, you don't need to try and find some. Love speaks in silences too.

~ 'Words' by Ullie Kaye Poetry

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This is perfect. We should all follow this.

There are people that are both clueless and insensitive with remarks, that is for sure. But there is also an uncomfortable feeling with silence.

So, after saying I’m sorry they feel they have to come up with something, so they start with the “he won’t be suffering anymore” type comments.

It is ok to just be silent.

[Starpolisher]

I wish there were words to comfort you. Even healing has to be done at your own pace. May God surround the both of you with his presence and hold you in his everlasting love and arms.🙏🏻

My heart aches for you.💔

[LadyAlice]

@sarahpanda - Your post is truly heartbreaking. I join with the caring posters in offering my thoughts and prayers to you and your beloved husband. I can’t imagine depth of pain for losing a true love. Please take care of yourself. For other posters who have also experienced or are experiencing heartbreaking situations, I am also thinking of you. God bless you all.