Among Friends

[GingerHead]

@BlueFinch Your post made me cry. I feel the same way about my DH, we've been married for 30 years and the thought of losing him feels like a literal piece of my heart would be removed.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your husband would be so proud of your strength. 

[Boomernichols]

@sarahpanda  I am so sorry that you are facing this brokenness.  I  will keep you in prayer for strength to get through this and lean on your faith and friends to help with this event.    People can often speak with an unbridled tongue that does not filter............

[Lucky Charm]

Most likely your friend never had that true, true love of another as you do.

I'd probably have to say something to them, even it if was later on. 

To let them know that they didn't help me any at such a sensitive time. 

That they have no idea how unbelievably enriching it is to be in love and to be loved in your lifetime.

I'm so very sorry you are going through this right now. 

Come back and share with us anything you want to about your beloved.  We are here.

[FranandZoe]

People who haven't experienced this loss just don't understand.  I lost my husband a little over two and a half years ago and it still hurts - it's still hard.  I'm sure it always will be.  But you learn to live with it.  You have to.  I'm so sorry - just take it day by day.  You'll be so busy at first and that actually helps.  You may be in shock and it may hit you harder months from now.  But it should get easier eventually.  And if it doesn't there's nothing wrong with going to a grief support group or even a therapist.  Best wishes to you - take care.  

[matty liz]

Beach-Mom thank you.  What a caring comment that so fill my heart.

[PABoater]

PLEASE tell her that he comments are not helpful!!!! 

She is causing more pain!!!  UGH

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO very sorry!!!!

[matty liz]

geezerette, you are so knowing.  Not having to explain myself, loving me even when wrong, it is so special.  Wish you were my neighbor but I feel you being there for me.

[matty liz]

Forbididden Fruit, thank you.  How knowing you are in your reply.  I could never thank you as you should be thanked.

[Franklinbell]

Oh gosh. I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thought and prayers.

[homedecor1]

@sarahpanda 

I was in your same position 11 months ago today.  Honestly, it was surreal and of course, nothing I prepared myself for -- although my spouse had been sick for over 4 years.

There really are no words for the heartbreak.   Unfortunately, I went thru the process alone (family to far away) so I told myself we had 50 wonderful years together and I was able to say goodbye which made it a little easier to deal with.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this sad & difficult time.  It hasn't for me gotten easier with time passing as people told me it would😔