Do you speak up?? - Page 4

hckynut · ‎03-10-2010

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I have always been known as a person that does speak up. In a group/in conversations with others and so on. I am talking about while the conversation is taking place.

As for thinking someone had their facts wrong and I have to ask another person? I am not one that would bring it up in a later conversation, unless asked. My being right is not that important to me.

I am not fond of listening to some talking about things I know to untrue. Been around many "know it all people" and unless they are speaking directly to me, depending on the topic, I let it slide.

You say this conversation was "with a friend"? Unless the topic is again a part of a conversation, I would not bring it up.

hckynut(john)

Moonchilde · ‎05-23-2010

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Zhills wrote:
Some people have very bad memory.

I knew a lady who just went with the flow. If the conversation was "coffee"...just love it. Go thru McDonalds every morning, etc."

Next day, same people, conversation "tea"...I always drink tea, just can't stand coffee!

Agreeing with the "crowd" seemed very important to her!

@Zhills

Okay, now THAT is strange .... lol.

Oh, I have totally known people like this in my lifetime. After a while you just understand that they actually have no opinion on anything (that they would ever reveal to anyone) and you can't believe a word they say. In conversations I ignore their "thoughts."

Life without Mexican food is no life at all

Golden_Oldie · ‎03-10-2010

I would not correct your friend. You never know how a friend will react. It's not worth the risk of losing a friend.

"God created memories so that we might have roses in December." - Italo Svevo

KentuckyWoman · ‎03-13-2010

We all like to have our facts straight. However this seems kind of petty. I think the fact you want to point out to your friend that she was wrong is a little over the top. Just let it go. Life will go on.

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

Let it go! If the conversation ever naturally comes around to that family again, mention matter-of-factly that you were talking to your son about them the other day (I wouldn't make it sound like you were fact checking her) and found out there is no brother!

I have a friend who give complete lessons when I misstate something even after I correct myself she continues the lesson! The most maddening thing was she and her dd were speaking in front of my dd and me and used an acronym that any educated person would know, stopped the conversation to explain it to us! She knows both my dd and I are college grads! I have two degrees and my dd has four! I just figure she has some desperate need to look smart so I ignore the insult and feel sorry for her!

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

Imadickens · ‎06-15-2016

@ValuSkr wrote:
I think it depends on the person. A sister-in-law is frequently misinformed. At first I'd suggest corrections, but oftentimes she was insistent. Maybe that comes from having been a librarian. At any rate, now I usually let it slide.

I laughed when I read your post! I remembered before we were married my dh mother and I disagreed (about everything, usually!) about needing to underline the title of a book in an essay. My dh had finished one for college and I read it. I noticed he'd forgotten to underline a book title and I pointed it out. He had done so for others so I knew it was just an oversight. His mother heard me and insisted I was wrong. I was an English major in college then and was quite sure I was right. She got so angry that she found a grammar book and looked it up in front of us. Sure enough I was right! So, she slammed the book shut and said that the book was wrong! Then she stormed off. When my dh got the paper back the professor had marked him off for that!

Never underestimate the power of kindness.

Posh Poodle · ‎06-27-2011

I don't think I'd say anything to her; however, it gives me pause as to what kind of a person she is. I would wonder what "information" she is passing on about me to others that is possible incorrect or just gossip. Even though you consider her a friend, I would be careful what I tell her about yourself or your personal life.

KaySD · ‎08-16-2016

It can be tempting, can't it? It sort of reminds me of how annoyed I felt in grade school when I knew the right answer but wasn't called on by the teacher! Tee hee!

But with a friend...unless there is some further decision to be made that involves me in some way, and we are specifically relying on accurate information...probably not. So easy to lead to hard feelings over nothing.

I know for sure that I feel better afterward if I hold my tongue, or at most say that's not how I remember it, but I might be wrong.

Catiele · ‎08-20-2012

I have held back for many years about comments and questions from my sister in law. Recently she hurt both my husband and I and I just had enough. I told her how we felt. She denied what she said. Wants me to call her and talk. Will not do that. It has gone on to long.

TX-starlight · ‎03-10-2010

Y'all are right, it bothers me, but not worth arguing over. I just don't like wrong facts. I did tell her, during the conversation, that I was not aware of another sibling. (Knowing I was right, since my son was bf with the younger son, & I knew the family well). I just drives me crazy when people repeat things wrong.

(Sorry I even wrote this now).