Do you speak up?? - Page 2

SaRina · ‎04-17-2015

I would not go out of my way to correct her, but if it comes up again in conversation, I might mention it.

More importantly.... I'd try to examine and work on my need for correctness all the time because it's not healthy, and can sap your energy unnecessarily. (not meant to be snarky at all)

Goldengate8361 · ‎01-27-2014

Let it go. It's just not important.

Vivian · ‎03-11-2010

Think about the reason why you want to correct her. If there's no chance that she will believe you, or if she will resent you for having the last word, then don't do it. Many people dislike I-told-you-so moments.

Chrystaltree2 · ‎12-08-2014

I think they call that being a "know it all" and it drives people crazy. If it isn't important, just let it go. Why irritate a friend just so you can prove that you are right when the issue is meaningless? You know you have this problem and everyone else does and no doubt it bothers people. It's who you are, you can't change it now. But exersize some control, you can do that. Let the small insignificant things go and only do your "I told you so" thing when it involves something big or important....to the other individula, not just to you. My middle sister has that unpleasnt trait and I see as little as possible of her due it. She's incredibly intelligent and well educated but that never translated into a career. So, I believe with her, it's an ego boost. She can't control herself. She "corrects" people in the middle of a story! She'll call three days later just to say that when I was telling that funny story about a birthday toast 20 years ago......we were all sipping chablis, not champagne....lol

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

I also can find this hard to let go, but your best choice ,is to let it go.

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

As long as someone is not making up stuff about me or someone I care about, I don't correct him/her. I don't need to be correct or right even if I suspect I am correct or right.

Edited to add - I am not passing judgement on any posters who have a thing about inaccurate information. We're all different.

I tend to let most of what folks say go in one ear and out the other :-)

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

Chrystaltree2 · ‎12-08-2014

@Bird mama wrote:
As long as someone is not making up stuff about me or someone I care about, I don't correct him/her. I don't need to be correct or right even if I suspect I am correct or right

Well said. In my real life, I have leared to just let it go. If no one's life or health is in immediate danger, there is no point in hurting or antagonizing someone by correcting them. I know how it feels when someone does it to me....lol

Bird mama · ‎03-12-2010

@Chrystaltree2

I have some family members who will revise history when they are recalling something, lol. I let it go in one ear and out the other. All the time I'm thinking, it's his or her story, let him or her tell it (wink).

There are times when you must speak, not because you are going to change the opposing side, but because if you do not speak, they have changed you.

GCR18 · ‎07-03-2013

I probably would have said something at the time. Oh, I didn't know there was an older son. Unless the topic comes up again, I wouldn't say anything.

Deanie · ‎03-09-2010

Interesting subject this. While the majority of the posters believe one should let the issue go, sometimes it is important to set the record straight. Let the facts speak for themselves. I am not suggesting one enter into a row over something insignificant, however, in some circumstances it would be important. Different situation, different evaluations.