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[Anonymous032819]

Curious.

Over in the Travel forum in the thread titled "https://community.qvc.com/t5/Travel/Arriving-in-Orlando-next-week/m-p/5565422#M14613

(dated 7/14/19)

She ends the thread with 

"Follow up. Had a great time and awesome dance festival at the Rosen Plaza. Just came home tired but happy. Thanks everyone"

So....... there she said that she had a GREAT time and that the dance festival was AWSOME, and that she and her husband came home HAPPY.

Now, in the opening post in this thread, she is saying just the opposite.

Color me confused.

[SXMGirl]

@bonnielu  I am so sorry.  Here is how I would handle it the next time that you see them.

If they go to your venue, welcome them and leave it at that.  They will not start anything with those who know you.

If you see them at another venue and they make similar comments to you, smile, tell them that where you are from people are welcoming and respectful (you can even add classy) and not disrespectful and snobby, thank them for letting you know that you are not welcome there, and that you will be sure to tell the person in charge that they (get their names) informed you that you were not good enough to be there, then walk away.  Be very nice as you do this.  

Of course, if it was a good night, that is exactly how I would handle the situation.  Or, being Italian, I might need to make someone cry and it would not be me.  You can take the girl out of South Philly but you cannot take South Philly out of the girl!

[VaBelle35]

I thought this story sounded familiar.

[NYC Susan]

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@AuntG wrote:

Me thinks OP puts this gripe out here annually.

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I feel as though there have been similar posts, with similar situations at least twice before.  I don't recall the name of the poster, but they were definitely about  participating in dance classes and being told by others that they weren't good enough or weren't keeping up.  In one post, I believe it was the instructor who felt they weren't keeping up with the rest of the class and were holding everyone else back.  

I thought this thread was an old one when I started reading because so much of it sounded familiar.

[NYC Susan]

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@CelticCrafter wrote:

I think the OP needs to find a dance class filled with beginners and they can all advance at the same level.

This isn't the first time she has come to say people weren't nice about their level of skill.

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Yes.  And I remember last time around advising her to find a more suitable class.  Some classes are primarily for fun, but others are for people who are more serious and advanced.  If she and her husband are holding others back because of  their skill level, that's not really fair to the others.

Of course no one should be unkind to them.  But this has now been an issue for them several times, so clearly there's a problem and they need to make some changes.  There's a reason why all of these people are telling them pretty much the same thing.

[Anonymous032819]

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@NYC Susan wrote:

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@AuntG wrote:

Me thinks OP puts this gripe out here annually.

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I feel as though there have been similar posts, with similar situations at least twice before.  I don't recall the name of the poster, but they were definitely about  participating in dance classes and being told by others that they weren't good enough or weren't keeping up.  In one post, I believe it was the instructor who felt they weren't keeping up with the rest of the class and were holding everyone else back.  

I thought this thread was an old one when I started reading because so much of it sounded familiar.

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@NYC Susan 

It's the SAME poster, with the SAME complaint.

I posted links as well as her opening posts in those threads earlier in this thread (post # 24).

[RedTop]

Keep pleasing yourself with this activity,and do not let anyone else spoil your fun!   

The whole point of your dance activity is to keep you and your husband active mentally and physically.  As long as you two are happy with what you are doing, a strangers assessment and expressed opinion should not be allowed to impact your fun.  

[Mindy D]

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@bonnielu wrote:

Hubby and I try very hard and do not give up.  We are involved in an activity that we frequent to learn more about.  It is a form of dance.  We simply don't know how to give up since we meet all kind of nice people while we are doing it.  About a month ago we traveled out of our area, paid for two nights at a hotel just to participate.  We took our lessons (paid big bucks for that too) and two of the participants were very rude to us. In no simple words told us we were not good enough to continue since we had failed in the past.  I kid you not.  I was speechless and since I am a retired school teacher who never gave up on anyone I was devastated.  Seems they continued to spred the word and made us uncomfortable for the weekend.  

I guess I am venting but hopefully someone might have advice for the next time around when we encounter the same fun couple.  

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I’d ignore them. Ignore the bad and reenforce the good. 

[Anonymous032819]

This is not the first time the the o/p has complained about people telling her and her husband that they are not that good at ballroom dancing.

If many people are all saying the same thing, then perhaps they are right, and the o/p and her husband are not as good at ballroom dancing as they think they are.

Why is it fair to all of the other participants who also paid good money for the class, to be held back from progressing, because the slowest couple can't keep pace?

@bonnielu 

Not everybody is good at everything, and you and your husband gave it a good shot, but if over the years different people have all said the same thing, that you're not good at something, then consider that they are telling you the truth.

If you really want to ballroom dance, then take a beginners class.

An instructor sent an email telling you that you weren't good at ballroom dancing.

The instructor said that if you didn't drop out, people would leave the group and the group would fold.

I would think that an instructor would be able to tell the good dancers from the not good dancers, and you are in the second category.

It is not fair to everyone else to be held back, because you can't keep up.

Maybe take a dance class that's designed for seniors.

People have told you time and time again, you are not good at ballroom dancing, many people, various people.

They all can't be "jealous" and they are not snobs.

They have the right to progress at a faster pace than you can keep up with.

Sometimes when many, various people all say the same thing over a period of years, they are telling you the truth.

[Jinlei]

I would have told those two snobs to shove off and I would have kept dancing!