Among Friends

[Peaches McPhee]

Assuming the class you took was open to all comers, regardless of ability, then you have every right to be there.  Don't let some weird interaction affect your enjoyment.

[occasionalrain]

While you have a right to take all you want from a buffet, leaving less for others and then eating only half, discarding the rest, considerate people think of others and would never do that.

If the OP is ruining other's enjoyment, they should find another less advanced group to join. 

[Sage04]

Is this the same person who posted about dance classes before? I remember someone posted that friends were making terrible comments about them.

I wouldn´t let anyone stop me from enjoying something that I like. Practice makes perfect. As long as you and your husband can afford it, keep on going.

Just smile and that would irritate the person who makes terrible comments.

[Anonymous032819]

Here is her previous thread about being "snubbed" at ballroom dancing.

It's titled "How Would You React?"

Posted February 7 of 2018.

https://community.qvc.com/t5/Among-Friends/How-would-you-react/m-p/4418809#M212543

"We are taking ballroom dance classes. We were initially invited by friends and over the last 4 months we made new ones. We travel 180 miles round trip in the evening weekly to be there and the reason we do this is to enhance our skills. Bottom line we got an email not to show up since we are not of the caliber as the rest and are holding everyone back in their endeavor to learn and be successful. We try very hard and do our best. We see ourselves as striving and improving and quite frankly equal to the others. We never expected for this to happen with less than 3 months to go. It is not a competition so I thought, but a class. I answered the email and gave suggestions on how we could continue and get extra help but with no response. I guess this is my version of venting since I am truly hurt and was depressed until I got my ice cream. LOL. We are resigned to just go somewhere else but the disappointment at the behavior of others is beyond my understanding."

And there's this one dated June 1, 2018 Titled "Betrayed By People We Thought Were Our Friends NEED ADVICE

https://community.qvc.com/t5/Community-Chat/Betrayed-by-people-we-thought-were-our-friends-NEED-ADVI...

"Part of a social group who dances together.  Part of the process is lessons.  Seems there are some in the group who learn faster and decided the slower learners are in the way, holding everyone back.  Our age is creeping up on us, so we have been deemed "slower."  We are being targeted and "if we don't leave there will be those who quit, walk away and the group will fold.  The whole thing is bazarre.  At first I did not know WHO THEY WERE THAT WERE MAKING THE REQUEST.  I now know.          

How should we handle the situation.  We did leave to avoid confrontation and problems for our group leader.  But when we see these people around, how should we react to them.  We thought they were our friends.  And are saddened."  

[CelticCrafter]

I think the OP needs to find a dance class filled with beginners and they can all advance at the same level.

This isn't the first time she has come to say people weren't nice about their level of skill.

[Still Raining]

I applaud the OP and her husband for finding an activity they enjoy.

However I have seen a prior post too.

There are different levels and some are more skilled and serious about their competitive status.

I have been turned away from bridge groups, mahjong groups, needlework judging, and you name it.  I know enough to only play tennis with the grandkids.

OP should find a lower level of skill so she can just relax and enjoy.

[CatsyCline]

the op may be having *memory* challenges. she asked many of the same questions relating to travel in the travel forum lastv year.

[jubilant]

I think before I would give advice, I would want to know if this has happened to you before.  I remember a similar post some time ago but I don't remember who it was.  My only advice would be, if this has happened to you before, you might want to consider a different form of fun and entertainment or be in something you know you can do somewhat well.  I am not sure I understand?  Aren't there some kind of try outs or something????

[riley1]

Ok, I was sitting here scratching my head thinking I had read something very similar to this before. Glad someone confirmed that this was a similar thread. 

[jubilant]

I see after looking back at a few of these posts that I had read something like this before. Knowing this, I think you would save yourselves a lot of hurt feelings if you honor the requests of "others" as you say.  It sounds like several people are in agreement on this.  If it is causing enough others problems (it sounds like it is) than I think the respectful thing to do is drop out.  I think here....the majority should rule.