Re: Check?

PickyPicky3 · ‎10-22-2018

@Alsace Gal If you are unable to get back the money she owes you, you might consider talking to the police. It won't get you your money back, but my gut is saying she might be doing this to other people as well. She planned in advance to steal from you, plain and simple. And you approved her plan.

KingstonMom · ‎05-20-2023

@Alsace Gal

I would just cash her check at her bank, but you need to set her straight that she cannot use your membership at Costco.

If she chooses not to join, then our joint trips to Costco would end.

That way you're not stuck paying for her purchases, she's got some nerve!

Alsace Gal · ‎11-25-2014

@Melzie wrote:
You have every right to be upset but don't be a pushover! There are red flags all over this situaiton.

First, she is dictating the time SHE wants to go with no regard for YOUR availability; she hasn't paid you back from the first shopping trip; and the fact that she didn't respond when you asked if she now had a Cosco card and that she would have to pay for her own purchase are all the ingredients for disaster. If it was more than a few days between Trip #1 and Trip #2, and she made no effort to repay you for Trip #1 yet, I would not have paid for Trip #2. You didn't say if the check was for the total of the two trips or just the second trip. Also, you asked to be reimbursed IN CASH after checkout but she gave you a check instead when she knew she had a week to get cash. Another red flag and what looks to me like a stall tactic!

As for the check she gave you, if possible, I would check to see if there are sufficient funds before trying to cash it. Also, going forward, I would accept only cash from this person regardless of the reason just to be on the safe side. So far, she doesn't seem to be a stellar friend. Good luck with it all.

There was a month between trips and I hadn't forgotten she hadn't reimbursed me. The second time the check was for the second trip (today).

I'm going to the bank in the morning if sufficient funds I'll cash it there.

I won't be taking her shopping anymore.

Alsace Gal · ‎11-25-2014

@PickyPicky3 wrote:
@Alsace Gal If you are unable to get back the money she owes you, you might consider talking to the police. It won't get you your money back, but my gut is saying she might be doing this to other people as well. She planned in advance to steal from you, plain and simple. And you approved her plan.

I don't want to take it that far, but will see what happen tomorrow.

Alsace Gal · ‎11-25-2014

@KingstonMom wrote:
@Alsace Gal

I would just cash her check at her bank, but you need to set her straight that she cannot use your membership at Costco.

If she chooses not to join, then our joint trips to Costco would end.

That way you're not stuck paying for her purchases, she's got some nerve!

Thank you. I won't be taking her anymore. Hopefully there will be enough funds in her account I can cash her check and there will be no need to discuss anything with her again.

elated · ‎06-09-2010

@Group 5 minus 1 wrote:
Actually "just say no" wasn't a commercial,it was a service announcement about drugs.

I know that is what it referred to. It just came to mind as a good reinforcement.

Etoile308 · ‎01-04-2014

@Alsace Gal, don't be hard on yourself. You were trying to do an act of kindness for someone who had been kind to you in the past. But, as you found out, everything has limits.

Go cash the check tomorrow. Don't worry about whether it's good. Assume it is, worry only if you find out it's not.

Make it clear that there will be no more trips together to Costco. Clearly state you are not going to jeopardize your membership. Period. If she wants a membership she can go anytime and open one.

elated · ‎06-09-2010

@Alsace Gal wrote:
@elated wrote:
Are you going to her bank or your bank? The reason I would go to her bank is to get cash and then go to yours. If you just deposit the check in your account, it may bounce and you will be charged. If I am correct, I don't think your bank can tell you if it is good. If the check is NSF, just keep the check and keep trying to cash it. It is legal tender.

I don't understand why you took her to Costco when she had not paid you for the first time. This woman has no character or ethics. When you went to check out and she did not have cash to give you, I would have left without purchasing the products and apologized to the cashier or made it clear from the start she needed cash to pay for her items. You need to stop being a doormat. Treat people how they treat you. If she still was not a member, I would have told her no.

You seem like a kind person but many people will use you if they see a weakness. That commercial comes to mind : Just Say No. Please take care of yourself first.
I don't also don't know why I took her. I won't again.
I never thought of myself as a doormat, but in this case I was.
I am goining to her bank in the morning and if check is good I'll go to mine and deposit the cash.
Thank you.

If there is any further information you need, I dealt with checks and know how to proceed. I hope the money is available.

Alsace Gal · ‎11-25-2014

@Etoile308 wrote:
@Alsace Gal, don't be hard on yourself. You were trying to do an act of kindness for someone who had been kind to you in the past. But, as you found out, everything has limits.

Go cash the check tomorrow. Don't worry about whether it's good. Assume it is, worry only if you find out it's not.

Make it clear that there will be no more trips together to Costco. Clearly state you are not going to jeopardize your membership. Period. If she wants a membership she can go anytime and open one.

I'll post tomorrow if the funds are available and try not to worry anymore. Since she can afford to purchase gift cards she can afford a mambership.

Alsace Gal · ‎11-25-2014

@elated wrote:
@Alsace Gal wrote:
@elated wrote:
Are you going to her bank or your bank? The reason I would go to her bank is to get cash and then go to yours. If you just deposit the check in your account, it may bounce and you will be charged. If I am correct, I don't think your bank can tell you if it is good. If the check is NSF, just keep the check and keep trying to cash it. It is legal tender.

I don't understand why you took her to Costco when she had not paid you for the first time. This woman has no character or ethics. When you went to check out and she did not have cash to give you, I would have left without purchasing the products and apologized to the cashier or made it clear from the start she needed cash to pay for her items. You need to stop being a doormat. Treat people how they treat you. If she still was not a member, I would have told her no.

You seem like a kind person but many people will use you if they see a weakness. That commercial comes to mind : Just Say No. Please take care of yourself first.
I don't also don't know why I took her. I won't again.
I never thought of myself as a doormat, but in this case I was.
I am goining to her bank in the morning and if check is good I'll go to mine and deposit the cash.
Thank you.
If there is any further information you need, I dealt with checks and know how to proceed. I hope the money is available.