Among Friends

[missy1]

You may think your spouse is your soulmate, but they don't think you are. So how does that work?

[ECBG]

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@missy1 wrote:

You may think your spouse is your soulmate, but they don't think you are. So how does that work?

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In everything I've read, "soulmates" were used to describe a couple.  We used to discuss this in depth in a senior class I taught.

Some people don't believe in the concept of soulmates.  They may call it by another name.  Some people believe they are devinely "lead" to their spouse, yet there are very nice people that just never met anyone.

I think one reason why E Harmony has been so successful is that they have narrowed down questions it takes several dates to discuss and matched clients.  In effect, they've done a lot of the work for you. 

A good marriage, is one where the partners genuinely have romantic love for each other are committed to nurturing and support of the other in every aspect of life.

[jubilant]

I believe in best friends but not soulmates.  Never quite understood what that means.

[Nightowlz]

I guess so. Today's our 40th anniversary.

[NAES1]

Yes😄  😄+++++Absolutely!

[Mominohio]

Haven't read all responses, but I don't believe that there is just one single "soul mate" for each of us. I don't even like the term 'soul mate'.

It is a huge world, and we cannot begin to meet everyone in it, so we therefore don't even begin to know how many compatible people there are out there for each of us.

I think people only think they have found their 'soul mate' because they are happy with what they have found, feel complete and well matched. But they really have no idea what else (who else) is out there.

I feel this about friendships and romantic relationships equally.

[MaggieMack]

What an interesting thread, strong feelings on both sides.

Yes, I believe in soul mates. But I also believe in other arcane things that would curl many toes on this forum. I believe there is a large group of people that you travel through eternity with, and sometimes you show up on earth together to further each other's lessons. Not necessarily as lovers, but as close friends and family members. The young soul may be your earthly dad, so the old soul comes in as his child so they can help each other progress.

I do think previous lovers find each other. It is rare, but when it happens, there is an unmistakable knowing.

I don't believe my late husband was necessarily my soulmate. But I did always feel that we were brought together for very important reasons. I was to support him through the loss of his young son and eventually his own battle with cancer; he was sent to me to help me become a better being.

[Sagitarian]

Yes, my soulmate passed away in September. We were married for 41 years. Without going into too much detail. We worked together for a year and became best friends. He was married and I was in a relationship. We fell in love and after two years we could not live without each other. A soulmate is your best friend, your husband and lover all in one. It is also called the love of your life.

[Pandalady]

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@phluphy wrote:

Absolutely!!  I met mine and had 50 wonderful years with him.  He passed away on Valentines Day.  My Heart is broke. 

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God bless you!  My prayers are with you!  My father in law passed away in October and he and my MIL had just celebrated 50 years in June. DH just visited with her on Monday of last week and she said that her heart hurts.  Hard to see her that way.  

DH and I dated on and off for 10 years before we married and it will be 20 years this year! 

My own mom and dad dated in high school, married when they were 17 and 19.  They will celebrate 55 years in May!

[Pook]

I do also think like some said that an animal can be a soulmate.  I have had many pets in my lifetime but there is one dog that I had an extra special connection with.  He would know when I would be coming home and my SO said he would suddenly get up and go stand by the door 15 minutes before I would come home and it was always right on the mark - no matter how long I was gone (an hour or 5 hours)  When we had him at the kennel, he would start getting excited and cry about 15 min to a half hour before I came to get him.  He just seemed to know what I was thinking.