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[beautiful_dreamer]

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@Shanus wrote:

I’m having difficulty following why & how a baby comes into this world is anyone else’s business....except the parents.  There are many methods to conceive other than IVF. I’d hate to be talked about or questioned how I got pregnant. The new baby (or child of any age) is what’s important, not how they got here.

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You said what I was thinking @Shanus.

[scatcat]

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@lovesrecess wrote:
if it were not for IVF, I would not have my 8 wonderful grandchildren. I see no religious basis to oppose it at all. The babies are all biologically theirs. I have three kids; they and their spouses determined this was the only way they could have a baby after consulting with drs and suffering several miscarriages; I considered the IVF procedure a gift from God

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I agree. I don’t understand why certain religions are part of my reproductive choices. It’s not your business! Stay out of my bedroom

[Shanus]

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@beautiful_dreamer wrote:

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@Shanus wrote:

I’m having difficulty following why & how a baby comes into this world is anyone else’s business....except the parents.  There are many methods to conceive other than IVF. I’d hate to be talked about or questioned how I got pregnant. The new baby (or child of any age) is what’s important, not how they got here.

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You said what I was thinking @Shanus.

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@beautiful_dreamer  💕

[CANDLEQUEEN]

I have two cousins on my dad's side that were adopted as babies. They are a bit younger than my sister an I, and I remember when my sis and I found out we were so shocked.......They actually look like their parents....Both parents had one biological child and then for whatever reason couldn't have any more, so they decided to adopt, and they both adopted them as infants..

The only thing I saw a problem with is that they weren't told until they were college aged. I feel that was way too late, but back then people didn't talk openly about adoption like they do now!

Also my parents had very very close friends that adopted two children, a boy and a girl, and they were very loved, but they were never told they were adopted, and then when both parents passed away, they both found out. The girl has reached out to her biological family and has formed a bond with them. The son never did-he was devastated...I don't know why they wouldn't have told them when they were older, but again they adopted them in the early 60's and it wasn't talked about openly........

I don't know what I would have done or how far I would have gone if I couldn't have my own children. I love kids, so I probably would have tried just about anything for my own.....If not, I would most certainly adopt.........

My little granddaughter who is 5, goes to pre-school with a girl who was adopted just last year from Vietnam, she can't speak English, but my GD invited her to her birthday party-what a sweetie...She fit right in, and the other kids helped her out, she now has learned  a lot of English and just is a happy, sweet well adjusted little girl!!!! Sorry for going on so long!lol! 

[Lilysmom]

@CANDLEQUEEN, great story!  LM

[Alison Wonderland]

My thought is that how or when any other family chooses to conceive is not my business.

[libbyannE]

No, I have no "thoughts on this." To each her own. I cannot possibly know how someone else feels. None of our business.

[jaxs mom]

My thought is that it's no ones business but theirs and I'd be annoyed that someone I presumably consider a friend would invite opinions of my decisions from random people on an internet shopping forum. 

[Kalli]

I know a couple who tried to conceive for quite a while and finally adopted.  They are nice folks, stable, loving people.

A close relative of the young child has now come out of the woodwork and is contesting the adoption. I don’t know all the particulars but it’s been heartbreaking for the couple and the child only knows them as parents but child now has to visit the relative by court order. What a mess.

Obviously, and purposely, my info is not detailed. And I can’t supply any more about it. Couple is devastated and I have no idea when court will make final decision. 

[occasionalrain]

A child/person who is adopted knows they are a second choice, no matter how loved they may be. Telling them they were chosen and special seems unlikly to be believed nor should it be. If it were true, babies would be gathered and adoptive parents, after perhaps holding each one, would make their choice. A lot like choosing a pet from a shelter. Of course when adopting an older child it is true, they are chosen and special.