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Respected Contributor
Posts: 4,446
Registered: ‎03-09-2010

Re: "Breaking up with your Doctor"

Wow some of you really found doctors who are personal friends...giving out cell# and all. That has never happened to me. I have never called or went in for a office visit to tell any doctor or dentist why I will not be returning. I just refuse to book another future appointment and thats it.

With that said this new pc I tried keeps calling and sending text messages to make another appointment. I just had a annual with him in July and had decided I was done going there for multiple reasons. When I was checking out they kept saying he wants you back in 3 months. WHY? he manages zero of my medications...and there is no medical reason to be back except he wants another $200 to ask how I am lol. No blood work due nothing...he is desperate to rope in patients...for cash. Only chiropractor offices have hounded me as much...I opted out for these texts...but the phone calling with automation voices too is so annoying. This behavior alone has turned me away even more.

Bad fit for me there...going back to my former internist instead...have a 10yr relationship there but his wait times are for hrs thats why I strayed and tried this other doc...but he isn't a sharp doc at all.

Anyway you did good to the OP...cancel appts write a note if you felt like it...start up with the new and hopefully much better doc.

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Posts: 19,393
Registered: ‎03-09-2010

Re: "Breaking up with your Doctor"

@noodleann 

 

I addressed my issues not her medical prowess

I am not sure if I care what she writes, I put my reasons in writing and believe me I had her many chances to redeem herself, from lack on answers about how to proceed regarding Covid to why she found it necessary to send me to a hematologist when I had been to one when I first started seeing her


@noodleann wrote:

@ROMARY wrote:

I wouldn't tell your present doctor anything negative. 

 

Dare I say:  Never  know what she will write on her notes on your chart.  'Uncooperative', 'negative personality disorder', etc., etc.  Who knows what someone will come up with.

 

Just go ahead and switch doctors.  

 

Start a new, nice relationship with your new doctor.  On a positive note.


That's exactly why I would never, ever put an "explanation" in writing. 

 

Doctors can fire patients, too, and the label "difficult patient" makes that an easy call.

 

My old practice didn't ask why I was leaving. My new doctor did, and I told him they were barbarians at the old practice. They performed what they billed as surgery without sedation, never mind anaesthesia, even a local. Took 3 years to treat unabated and worsening high blood pressure. Their nurses, usually the backbone of a practice, were unprofessional and unpleasant. The practice was about bucks and big data, and patients were simply vehicles to their objectives. I've not yet met anyone who is happy with my old practice.

 

I believe it is a tactical error to think of any professional as a "friend." You need to be able to speak freely about concerns and dissatisfaction, to question judgment calls. If you're hamstrung by confused feelings, it will be much harder to do that. I've personally paid the price for this mistake in pain and dollars, which is why I don't make it now. The same applies to my tree guy and landscaper, general contractor, plumber, electrician, roofer, and car mechanic. Not friends, but valued and trusted professionals.

 

This may be different for males. 


 

Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive what could go right.
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Registered: ‎08-24-2020

Re: "Breaking up with your Doctor"

You don't owe her any explanation. Two years is not a long time but it is if your uncomfortable with a dr. However, if you feel a need then be prepared to be talked out of leaving. That's money she is liesing. Be strong, stick to your guns.