Venting...

Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

I have mentioned this in the past.... my husband has been dealing with hip/leg pain since probably October last year...not exactly sure.

He was diagnosed by the ortho with arthritis in the hip...he has had two injections a round of steroids, no relief..before the 2nd injection I stepped in and made an appt. with a chriopractor. He diagnosed him with sciatia...doctor said he has very little arthritis.....he has seen the chrio for about a month, with little relief. 2nd shot did not last.

Out of the blue this am he said I wonder if part of the pain is because my feet have felt numb...WHAT, this is the first I have heard of this..I was irked to say the least...he said maybe I have a blood clot!

I have decided that I am not a caring person, I have lost total patience with him...I am trying not to let this discussion this am set the tone for the day...thanks, just needed to vent.

Desertdi · ‎03-13-2010

@Mom2Dogs

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evelyner · ‎03-09-2010

My husband just had his second hip replacement. He too was in terrible pain including his back. My daughter who is a PT, told him he needed surgery. What a difference it's made. Good luck

conlt · ‎03-16-2010

I am sorry this is happening to your husband. It is important that we tell the doctors all of our symptoms. Is your husband diabetic? Diabetes can cause numbness in the lower extremities. A blood clot's symptoms are pain in the calf, swelling of the leg.

He definitely needs to be checked out by his primary doctor. He has had little relief of pain, and now numbness of his lower extremities is significant. Numbness can also be a symptom of spinal stenosis.

Don't be upset with him, sometimes people minimize their symptoms, or don't think they are important enough to tell the doctor.

In any event, I think he needs to see his primary MD and tell him/her his symptoms.

Also, once he see's his primary doctor and is properly diagnosed, a Physical Therapy referral is usually very helpful at helping relieve pain. Those Physical Therapist have really helped me over the years. I would chose a therapist who is trained in "manual therapy." They know how to manipulate the body to help relieve pain.

Sweet Kitties · ‎09-03-2017

It must be frustrating for you. My husband is kind of like yours. He often blows off things that he should be concerned about.

Has he had his vitamin B12 level checked? Sometimes numbness in hands & feet is a sign of deficiency. I don't know how old he is, but as we age many of us can't absorb B12 very well. We need to take B12 pills. If your husband has digestive issues he may even have to go in for regular shots.

Perhaps an anti-inflamation diet would also help. You can look that up, but it mainly consists of getting ultra processed food out of your diet and eating lots of vegetables & fruit. Also eating less sodium & certain kinds of oils. If he's over weight, it will contribute a lot to his pain. If he goes on the right diet he will lose weight.

There are sciatia stretches he could try. You can find them on Youtube. A couple sites I find helpful is "Bob and Brad" and Will Harlow, Over 50's specialitst physio."

I don't know the details of what your husband is going through, but looking in from the outside, I would tend to believe the ortho over a chiorpractor. I'm guessing he had a hip xray. The xray would clearly be able to show arthritis. Maybe at some point he will need a hip replacement. My husband had a total shoulder replacement a year ago. It turned out very well for him. He did all his physical therapy & now he's exerciing everyday at home. It's so wonderful to see he's not in pain anymore.

I know it's hard to have patience with your husband, but try to remember that he's suffering. Sciatia and arthritis is very painful! Please don't become an uncaring person. In the end, it will hurt you as much as it does others!

CAcableGirl2 · ‎06-03-2010

@Mom2Dogs I feel your frustration in your post, you just want him to get better and I'm sure he feels the same, but having to deal with long term pain must be incredibly hard and all he wants is to feel better. He may want to see a neurologist instead of a chiropractor.

Just do a search for sciatica and treatment and it may help to understand what may be causing his pain. I read where it may cause numbing in the feet too. At least that way, you have an overal understanding of what it is any and all symptoms and possible treatments before you even speak to a doctor.

Good luck, and I hope your day gets better.

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shepluv · ‎06-10-2015

This sounds so similar to what I've just been through. Evenutally, an MRI showed that herniated discs pressing on nerve was mimicking hip issues.

wagirl · ‎03-09-2010

@Mom2Dogs ---Oh good lord!!! I would be so mad at him too !!!! My now ex (thank you jesus)--was the type that NEVER went to a dr for anything--but just moaned and groaned. I would make drs appt and he would cancel them--went on for years--we were married for 47----so I stopped bugging him, figured he just liked to be in pain--he was/is a pain anyway. These guys need to realize--we NEED to know all about the things that are going on---so we can prevent or try too, more damage done by keeping their mouths shut!!!

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@Sweet Kitties wrote:
It must be frustrating for you. My husband is kind of like yours. He often blows off things that he should be concerned about.

Has he had his vitamin B12 level checked? Sometimes numbness in hands & feet is a sign of deficiency. I don't know how old he is, but as we age many of us can't absorb B12 very well. We need to take B12 pills. If your husband has digestive issues he may even have to go in for regular shots.

Perhaps an anti-inflamation diet would also help. You can look that up, but it mainly consists of getting ultra processed food out of your diet and eating lots of vegetables & fruit. Also eating less sodium & certain kinds of oils. If he's over weight, it will contribute a lot to his pain. If he goes on the right diet he will lose weight.

There are sciatia stretches he could try. You can find them on Youtube. A couple sites I find helpful is "Bob and Brad" and Will Harlow, Over 50's specialitst physio."

I don't know the details of what your husband is going through, but looking in from the outside, I would tend to believe the ortho over a chiorpractor. I'm guessing he had a hip xray. The xray would clearly be able to show arthritis. Maybe at some point he will need a hip replacement. My husband had a total shoulder replacement a year ago. It turned out very well for him. He did all his physical therapy & now he's exerciing everyday at home. It's so wonderful to see he's not in pain anymore.

I know it's hard to have patience with your husband, but try to remember that he's suffering. Sciatia and arthritis is very painful! Please don't become an uncaring person. In the end, it will hurt you as much as it does others!

@Sweet Kitties What she said about diet and weight loss has been a miracle for both of us. We feel better and are more limber than 20 years ago. We quit eating out with Covid, then later went to plain chicken, ground white meat turkey, beef once a week, lean pork occasionally, lots of fresh veggies and some fruits, little sugar and add salt to almost nothing. Brown rice and whole grains only--cut out the white refined stuff.

OP, Whatever your path now, you have my prayers and best wishes, because it isn't easy.

It will take some time, but our food is organic when we can, and is excellent, nutritious, and filling. It isn't difficult when you get into it, and neither of us have an urge to eat a big meal out.

Use appliances, instant pot, air fryer little ovens, and rice cookers (that make way more things than rice), etc.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

I don't know where to being. There so minscinceptions here. First. I'm 100% certain that your husband does have arthritis in his hip. There was absolutely no reason for the MD who is an orthopedic specialist to lie. You can ask to see the xray yourself. The steroid injections only work for about 50% of patients. They don't know why. It's not a cure, it's pain cintrol. On average, it lasts about 12 weeks and over time, it loses effectiveness. I know this because I get injections in my knee and I have had them in my lower back for sciatica. And SCIATICA is not a disease or medical condition. Sciatica just means lower back nerve pain. It can come from many different things so when physicians diagnose sciatica, the next step is to find the cause and to treat the cause. In my case, it's spinal stenosis. I got injections every four months for about three years and they stopped being effective. The nerve pain likely is the cause of your husband's numbness in his feet. My big toes are numb. Have been for years. The vertebrae in my lower back puts pressure on the nerves. Venting is good but your husband needs to be seen by an orthopod who specializes in spines. There are things other than injections, which don't work for him, to relieve his pain. And I think you need to step back and let your husband work with his doctors. He shouldn't speak through you. What's happening with him, isn't unusual. Arthritis is common for many of us, as we age. Maybe for most of us. My husband who is an RN self diagnosed his shoulder pain as a pulled muscle from lifting and turning heavy patients. He's had pain for months. Long story short. He has osteoarthritis in that shoulder. Age related, wear and tear arthritis. He's 65.