Re: Paging Gracies Mom

Gracies Mom · ‎04-25-2011

Hi Loopy...

Joe's Mom came through gallbladder surgery fine--hopefully she can go home today. She was out of bed and eating yesterday--she's a tough lady!

As for my Mom, I put her on hospice care yesterday. I was told she probably would not survive the night, but she did--I didn't get any phone calls (yet). I'm happy that she is pain free and will pass on peacefully. My brother's 53rd birthday is today and unfortunately, he is spending the day arranging Mom's burial--I'm glad he has stepped up and is dealing with the business end of Mom's dying. I'm good with the medical and he's good with business.

The doctors thought Mom would pass on ten days ago--it is a miracle she is still alive.

Thank you for your friendship and support, Loopy!! I will keep you & Cookie updated.

God Bless,

GM

cookiegal · ‎04-16-2010

Good evening ladies!! I only had a few minutes to check in and was so glad I did---GM I'm so so sorry to hear about your mom!!!!!!!!! I can't imagine what you all are going through!!! You, your mom and your whole family are in my thoughts and prayers!!!!!! I'm so glad you have the emotional support of your brother!!!! Sending you extra comforting {{HUGS}}!!!!!!!!!!

Gracies Mom · ‎04-25-2011

**Loopy & Cookie**

My beloved Mom passed away on March 13. We buried her the next day. My brother could not wait--besides the fact we have very little family left, so there was no one to wait for. We had three cousins & their spouses attend--we took them to lunch afterwards. On Sunday my brother & his wife hosted a memorial luncheon for Mom--we had about 30 people come--mostly friends and neighbors--and a couple of cousins. It was nice seeing everyone and it took our mind off the week's events. I went back to work yesterday--my brother is going back today. Thank goodness we cleaned out Mom's apartment over last summer--one less thing we have to deal with. Aside from telling the nursing home to donate her clothes--and dividing up her jewelry, we have nothing else to do except mourn her loss. The last ten days of her life were brutal for her--and for us. I'm happy I put her on hospice care--I know she died in peace. Thank you all for the kind words and prayers.

Love,

GM

LooPY · ‎07-30-2011

Oh, GM--I am so sorry to read the post I didn't want to see. Please accept my heartfelt condolences and wishes for strength and peace. I'm glad you and your brother have been a support system for each other during your mom's life, and now that she has passed. All we can do is know that we did the best for them that we could, and that hospice care eased her passing is a comfort, however small. It is helpful to have friends and family join you at times like this, and since cookie and I can't be with you in person, I know I can speak for her when I say we're sending cyber hugs and love and wishes for healing your aching heart. Take extra good care of yourself and be well--x0x0x0x0x0x

Gracies Mom · ‎04-25-2011

Thank you for your kind words, Loopy! You and Cookie are so sweet---I appreciate your friendship so much, even though we've never met--it feels like we have, no?

I really missed my Mom this morning---we used to talk twice a day--morning and evening.I can watch TV and read in the evening to keep myself busy--plus Joe is home. But I'm alone with Gracie in the morning--that's my tough time--I find myself reaching for the phone and then stopping myself in mid-reach when I remember Mom is gone. I yearned to hear her voice today for some reason. Even Joe was so used to asking me if I spoke to Mom when he gets home from work--he stopped himself in mid-sentence yesterday. I know it will take time…sigh.

Love,

GM

cookiegal · ‎04-16-2010

GM, I came here having a fear of what your update would say---and I'm so so sorry for your loss!!! I can only imagine what your are feeling!!!! Take comfort that your mom is no longer suffering!!! Cherish your memories and the good times!! I'm so glad that you and your brother have one another for support at this time---and of course you have Joe, Gracie and your friends, like loopy and I!!! And yes, it will take time! And while I don't believe time necessarily "heals" all wounds, it does make things easier to cope with!! And as Loopy said, I'm sending cyber hugs your way!!!!!!!!!!

Gracies Mom · ‎04-25-2011

Cookie…You are so sweet!! The "cyber-hugs" are much appreciated!! I'm keeping busy between working and speaking to friends--and the usual events of daily living stuff. So many friends have reached out--I can't believe how many sympathy & Mass cards I've received--vases of flowers--and sympathy baskets filled with goodies.The men at Joe's job took up a collection and gave us $400 to make up for the day Joe lost at work--the girls in my office gave me $85 to help us pay for the trip down state and incidentals. I felt funny--I was never given money like that in my life--but I was told I must accept it.

It's been eight days since my Mom died---it feels longer. I didn't see her much, but since we spoke daily, I do miss her voice. You are right, Cookie, about time not truly healing all wounds--I guess some of my heart was taken away when Mom passed--that can never be replaced. One of my friends told me that "good memories float to the top"--I like that. However, I am grateful she is not suffering anymore--she was always in pain the last eight months--even morphine hardly helped at the end. I just wish she didn't have to experience such suffering--I wish I could've done more.

Joe and Gracie have been a blessing for me---it's time for all of us to rest and gather our strength back. Now is the time I have to take better care of myself. I surely do not want that mean ol' cancer to reoccur again!

Hope you two, Cookie & Loopy, are well and enjoying this sunny day (even though it is so windy)--did you hear they are predicting snow Tuesday into Wednesday?? OH NO!!!!!

Please post and let me know what's been going on in your lives!!

Love,

GM

cookiegal · ‎04-16-2010

Hi ladies! I wanted to stop by quickly and wish you both a wonderful Easter and Passover!!! Hope you both have a great holiday filled with much love!!! I'll be heading out to see my family tomorrow--can't wait!!! :-) Take care!! Sending hugs!!!!

Gracies Mom · ‎04-25-2011

Happy Easter & Passover to my two wonderful buddies, Cookie & Loopy!!!! Hope your holidays are terrific and filled with fun and all that good stuff!!!!

I've been keeping busy working--but still missing my Mom's voice everyday.Getting depressed seeing ads for Mother's Day--that's going to be a tough day for me.

Joe injured his knee at work three weeks ago---the orthopedist thinks he sprained some ligaments and is waiting 8 weeks to see if he heals before recommending an MRI. Joe was out of work for 13 days--we couldn't afford for him to be out anymore time. He wears a knee brace and ices his knee when he's home. If he did tear something, he might need surgery--we are praying that didn't happen. I really wish the dark cloud over us will disappear already!!

Hope you both are well---please do post when you can!!

Easter Hugs,

GM