Wellness

[Laura14]

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@dexwrote:

@Laura14@Well if your mom stays any longer ask her to pay rent cause it looks to me like she is moving in.

i don’t know how this story went from I am hosting my mom while she recovers from a surgery to if she doesn’t move out..I will.I don’t understand why if your mom won’t even talk to you that she is not either going home or moving to your sisters place.

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It's my mother's home.  I have always paid her rent ever since I moved in after her second husband died and she needed someone to help pay the bills since she had just quit her job.   That's why if anyone has to go it's me.  It's past time anyway.  

[SurferWife]

Move out.

[Mom2Dogs]

but @Laura14...you pay rent so it is your home.....well unless mom and her dh split up, then she might want the place to live in.

When will your schooling be complete?

[Laura14]

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@Mom2Dogswrote:

but @Laura14...you pay rent so it is your home.....well unless mom and her dh split up, then she might want the place to live in.

When will your schooling be complete?

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She just doesn't see it that way.

School is done.  Just graduated.  Have to take the certification test which I hope to do in mid April and then sky's the limit.   

[dex]

@Laura14@Ok I get it now.Well then it would be good if you can’t work this out that you find a new place.Then you will have some peace.It is always best to have your own space.I think you will both be happier and might even have a better relationship.

Take care of yourself and find a way to get on your own soon.I think your whole life is ready for change.

[Mom2Dogs]

@Laura14

Fly Laura Fly!!  It will be exciting (and scary) to start your 'new' life.

[tony14smoke]

Oh Laura- you have entertained me for so long and now I read all that you are going through- I feel so sad for you. Families all have their dynamics but yours are a little extreme.

Yes, you have to take care of you, control what you can. Don’t give anyone any more power over your life. I am sure they have not felt, seen or agonized over you as you have over them.  

It is time to give yourself permission to be you.

I am so glad that you are done with school. I wish you luck with the exam.

Feel free to check out my little town near a city in the northeast! We have snow but not tornadoes!

Look forward and smile- you will feel better as soon as you do.

I admire your courage and resolve to take on life. I am not sure I could and give you so much credit for going for it. 

So you GO GIRL!!!

And one big hug!

Tony

[YorkieonmyPillow]

  I just think this situation is appalling.

  You certainly don't deserve this, @Laura14.....

[webbgarner1]

@Laura14   Sounds like there are so many layers and issues in your situation and did not read all of your posts. But, I personally will share this. I do believe personal happiness is a choice we all make. Some people thrive on drama, causing it, stirring it,  the more trouble and discontent they can cause the merrier they are. You can chose to be a part of it, playing imto manipulation or chose to take the high road and be happy, prductive and not be a pasrt of all of the drama. If your mother for whatever reason wants to brood, pout or whatever, tell her" Mother, I love you but i have my own life . 

A hysterectomy may cause some hormonal issues but most surgeons prescribe the hormones while still in the hospital to adress hot flashes and so forth.Most women do not need physical assistance after a hysterectomy, it only a uterus, maybe an ovary. I do not think your mothers issues are all related to having a hysterectomy. It may even benefit her after her recovedry to consider going back into a job if she is able since you stated she had quit her job and needed someone now to help finicially. It would give her mind something to do . Hope good things come your way in your new job. Stay focused and if you make a decision to break the cycle of manipulation I think you will be happy.

[aubnwa01]

Why not just move to a rental in your same town where you're at until you're settled in your career & have attained some experience & seniority & then, transfer to another locale when you figure out where you want to go?  Right now, you have too many balls in the air & too much turmoil at home to make any huge life-altering decisions that need to be made with a clearer head.