Wellness

[Laura14]

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@tony14smokewrote:

Oh Laura- you have entertained me for so long and now I read all that you are going through- I feel so sad for you. Families all have their dynamics but yours are a little extreme.

Yes, you have to take care of you, control what you can. Don’t give anyone any more power over your life. I am sure they have not felt, seen or agonized over you as you have over them.  

It is time to give yourself permission to be you.

I am so glad that you are done with school. I wish you luck with the exam.

Feel free to check out my little town near a city in the northeast! We have snow but not tornadoes!

Look forward and smile- you will feel better as soon as you do.

I admire your courage and resolve to take on life. I am not sure I could and give you so much credit for going for it. 

So you GO GIRL!!!

And one big hug!

Tony

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@tony14smoke  This is the nicest post ever.  Thank you so much!  I have thought about going home to the Lehigh Valley again or somewhere between NYC and Philly.  Not sure where your town is but I would love to be back home in the Northeast.  I checked out being a NYC city girl and it's just too rich for my blood right now plus I would have to put up with people who have a mouth on them like me....    Thank you for taking the time to post!  

[Laura14]

@webbgarner1  Thank you.  My mother is retired now so she's hopefully going back to her retirement home in FL at some point.  The words you gave me are the exact speech I have prepared to say "I love you and I am so grateful you are well but this arrangement is done and I need to go live my life elsewhere."  I am so grateful that I am on the right thought path.

@aubnwa01  I have thought about that.  Someone else suggested it and the issue I have with that is I would be commiting myself to a place I really don't like for another year plus moving twice.  Since my exam is only a few weeks away, I think it's best to just get the certification and then go be where I want to be and get it all over with instead of postponing again.  I've done enough of that and it's really worn on me worse than I even knew.  But it's a great thought if I enjoyed where I lived which most people do.  It would be the smart way to go.       

[Laura14]

For those of you who have been following this stupid saga, the husband is back!  At least his car was outside when I left for work this morning.

My guess is her checkup is today and my hope is she will be returning with him either later today after the appointment or tomorrow. 

My freedom may be coming!    

[YorkieonmyPillow]

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@Laura14wrote:

For those of you who have been following this stupid saga, the husband is back!  At least his car was outside when I left for work this morning.

My guess is her checkup is today and my hope is she will be returning with him either later today after the appointment or tomorrow. 

My freedom may be coming!    

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HURRAY!!!!!!!!!!  

[Laura14]

@YorkieonmyPillow  ROFLMAO!  I don't want to celebrate too early but it's a good sign!

[qbetzforreal]

@Laura14hoping everything works out

[qualitygal]

I don't know how old your mother is, but check with her doctor and see if she's well enough to return to her own home.  She needs to do that. It's time. Do it before too many arguments and hurts and ill feelings come into the picture.  

[Gemspirit]

@Laura14~
I have experience personally in recovery from a hysterectomy & taking care of my own Mom. I don’t
know how old your Mom is or, what if any extending problems she had. That’s a big factor.
However, I had one early at 35! It was a partial so I had an abdominal incision, I had awful & painful fibroids & endometriosis. That took about 5-10 days before I was up & moving with an abdominal binder on. My Mom came the first five days to help me shower, she cooked for us & took care of our children. And, with young children to take care of & I had to get myself moving! My husband had a very stressful job & long hours at the time. But, he was a champ & helped however he could.
My Mom had a total hysterectomy 10 years prior. I remember it taking her longer but, she was a lot older than when I had mine. My Dad also was right there for her & anything she needed. I remember taking a bunch of personal& vacation days from my job as a nurse and going to their house the first few days.
If your Mom’s husband is able bodied...IMHO, he should be the primary caregiver. If your Mom is recovering w/o complications , she may need a gentle nudge that it’s time to go home. You can still keep helping by grocery shopping & cooking, bathing, etc.
What I’m hearing is, you need your home back. If you’re stressed, it will show in your dealing with your Mom. And, if you have sisters offering to help...go for it!!!
Good luck. 🌺

[Laura14]

@Gemspirit @qualitygal  Thank you both so much for your kindness. I really hate how this has shaken out so your insight is much appreciated.  

[Laura14]

Hostage situation Day 13....

So I drove home last night and pull into the garage.  There are moving boxes stacked along the back wall.  Oh good.  I am finally getting my walking papers.  Or is she moving in and he brought her stuff from FL?

I walk into the house expecting the tribunal/firing squad and again I get the closed door.  The husband's car is gone so I just repeat my normal prisoner routine and grab my bagel and go settle in for another night.

All of a sudden I hear my mom talking to someone on the phone.  I hate that I had to eavesdrop but I finally got great news.

#1  She is feeling much better.  Her appointment is today and, of course, we are all hopeful she gets the official all clear.  Not sure I'll be told about it but she's my mom and I love her and want her well.

#2  She loves my sisters and everything they've done for her.  Wish I had had the same opportunity...

#3  She said she is leaving Friday morning to return back to FL with her husband where they are expecting house guests and she also made plans to visit with whoever this person was next week down there.

So, have no idea what the boxes are about yet.  Hopefully I can use them in a bit when I figure out where I am going.  But at least I'll get a bit of a breather and a whole weekend alone in my own home and into next week.     

One more night until freedom....