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[DSD2]

As a mother, of course your first instinct is to worry. But right now, your daughter needs you and that means being strong and supportive. Please try and be reassuring and not let her "hear" your concern.

If your being with your daughter would be comforting to her, I would urge you to go. But as you noted she doesn't want you "hovering" that doesn't seem like a good plan.

Sometimes testing does involve some discomfort. But it is important that the dianosis be made.  

I don't believe the doctor would have used the words he did if he feared something was terribly wrong. Hopefully, the results will bear that out. Doctors must be extremely careful to follow up on anything and everything and biopsies are very common.

I will pray for her and for you.

[manny2]

I just went trough it as well @KCDiva I had my mammogram, they called me back for a diagnostic mammogram. that prompted the ultrasound, which prompted the biopsy. Thankfully it was benign. It was torture for about 2 months. 

It isn't a guarantee, but when they say it's probably nothing we just want to be sure. My doctor did not commit one way or the other, but he said I think it's benign, but I have to be sure. Cancer has distinct borders on the ultrasound. It gives them a good idea of what they are looking at. It is not 100%, but in my case it was. 

I am praying your daughter has the same result. I think she will. 

I had minimal discomfort during the biopsy. A pinch from the needle to numb, and then pressure. I had bruising afterward that was it. Not bad at all. 

[jubilant]

for your daughter and you.  I agree that keeping calm will  be her best help right now.

[BirkiLady]

I've had more biopsies and lumpectomies that I can count in the past 45 years. Trust her physicians and encourage her to be as relaxed as possible; she'll be much more comfortable during the procedure and any discomfort will be far, far less! (Trust me, relaxation and a calm demeanor are the clue to a painfree procedure.)

I just had another follow-up biopsy (done every six months) and I'm 74. This is the third time and the surgeon has decided to see me in another six months. He would rather watching the site rather than removing the mass of tissue, which appears to be healthy. After two years of checking and labs, that's OK with me! I'll continue to have more biopsies rather than the invasive lumpectomies or surgeries (which I've also had). 

This is such a simple procedure and takes just minutes! Afterward, I go about my day as always. No pain ever. (Years ago it was another story.) Medicine has made huge strides!!

[Terrywu]

Prayers for your daughter and you.  My daughter also 47 had a double mastectomy last year.  Fortunately it was Stage One and involved no treatment.  Just got home yesterday from her home as she had to have the implants removed.  Her body was rejecting them. I know how you must feel. It is terrifying when it is your child.   Praying everything turns out well.

[cindyNC]

Thinking of you and your daughter. Please post updates after the procedure. 

[wagirl]

I know this thing  sounds horrible---but thank god there is a way to find out what is going on--I have had MANY biopsies--most were no big deal, all were benign---all painless as I had topnotch techs doing them, however the last one in 2012 was when I was dx with breast cancer---I went thru treatments and am cured as of this year!! The worse thing about this procedure is waiting to have it done, thinking about it until you have it done and of course , not knowing til results are given. Don't freak out until you have something to freak out about!!! I know easier said than done---good luck !!!

[bobby5]

@KCDiva
Prayers for your daughter and you as well🙏

@hyacinth003
How wonderful of you to contribute to this post being that you were just diagnosed yourself.
Please don't beat yourself up about missing mammograms. Don't look back. Just look forward. Maybe you can even use it as a teaching moment for women you know who don't get mammograms.
Prayers for you as you go through chemo, surgery, and radiation. Remember, keep looking forward!❤

[Icegoddess]

I went through it many years ago.  Regular mammo, then called back for an ultrasound, then a biopsy.  The worst part was the waiting for the biopsy.  They put me under for mine.  It turned out to be benign.  They called it a fibroadenoma.  After I woke up, my husband and I went to Burger King while waiting for my prescription for pain meds to be filled.  I think I took one of those, nowhere near what they prescribed.  

The doctor told me I had dense, lumpy breasts.  I don't remember the actual medical term, but I guess it can be painful for some since he mentioned I could give up caffeine, chocolate, etc. to help.  Not thanks.  Mine are not painful, but I don't do self exams because I would be certain that any lump must be cancer.  I'm better off just going for my regularly scheduled mammo.  

[hckynutjohn]

@KCDiva 

If you have always been a "sky is falling" person, not much I can say. And as far as your 47 year old daughter? Sometimes kids pick up on things they see from their parents.

In the last 3 weeks I have waited for results from 2 different biopsies, and the results of an Echocardiogram of my twice damaged heart. The results were good on 2 of them, and not the best on the other 1.

Said on this and other forums, I am a "wait and see", and always been an eternal optimist. Guess I got this from my mother, because 2 of my 3 older sisters are/were, just like me.

Wishing your daughter the best outcome,

hckynut  🇺🇸