Wellness

[I am still oxox]

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@kze wrote:

@I am still oxox 

I'm sorry your therapist hasn't been able to help you with this.  Would you consider changing therapists?  I can see that not be the best especially if they have helped you in other ways.

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@kze I have never disucssed this with her. She is great I have been with her for a year and we have built a great founation 

[Bonkers1]

I think the same way you do feeling I look bigger than I am.  I don't know if this true but someone told me once you are heavy you will always feel you look heavy even after a significant weight loss.

[pdlinda]

@Bonkers1   I lost 100 lbs 19 yrs ago and have kept it off (maybe lost a little) with strict guidelines that I impose upon myself to make sure I'm eating foods that fortify my health and keep my weight stable.

I've had occasion to mention my weight loss through the years and the usual comment is:  "I can't believe  you were ever overweight You look on the thin side."  

When I look in the mirror, I don't see myself as "thin" but I accept how I look and NEVER, EVER say "Oh, I'd love to lose a few pounds."

For that reason, I have not weighed myself in 19 years because I KNOW what my eating behavior is and I KNOW from a lifetime of dieting that if that scale went UP or DOWN a few pounds I would be seeking out a "diet" to remedy the situation.  I can tell my weight by trying on my clothes and seeing how they fit.  That's what works for me!

[Bonkers1]

@pdlinda 

Same here I don't own a scale and use my clothes fit for reference.

[AngelPuppy1]

@I am still oxox 

You are to be congratulated on the dedication it took to lose he weight that you did.  This was no easy thing. Body dismorphia is a very real thing.  I suffer from it myself and I struggle with it and have for years.  You know that you look good but you look in the mirror and somehow your mind and body don't seem to connect.  It helped me somewhat to hang a set of my old clothing next to my new clothing and even trying the old clothing on and looking in the mirror and then the new.  I kept doing this.  Positive reinforcement from family and friends is very helpful.  Have you looked on-line for support groups?  This could also be very supportive.  

[Cakers3]

@I am still oxox

Since you have a healthy relationship with your therapist do bring up this concern with her.

It's normal for some to see only "flaws" but the concern is how much you are
thinking about this beyond looking in the mirror.

8 years is a long time. Usually BDD causes obsessive thinking and physical detachment from the brain to what is seen.

Your therapist is your way to navigate through this and a support group may be helpful. However try to get through the "why" with your therapist.

Just talking will be a tremendous help.

You will be ok.

[I am still oxox]

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@Cakers3 wrote:
@I am still oxox

Since you have a healthy relationship with your therapist do bring up this concern with her.

It's normal for some to see only "flaws" but the concern is how much you are
thinking about this beyond looking in the mirror.

8 years is a long time. Usually BDD causes obsessive thinking and physical detachment from the brain to what is seen.

Your therapist is your way to navigate through this and a support group may be helpful. However try to get through the "why" with your therapist.

Just talking will be a tremendous help.

You will be ok.

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@Cakers3 In all honesty I am starting with a new therapist the previus one was useless in addressing some issues 

[Cakers3]

@I am still oxox

I understand. Not everyone matches well with a therapist.

Just remember talk therapy will work if you keep an open mind.
A good therapist will see beyond the symptom and help you recover the "why".

You will be ok.

Good luck.

[I am still oxox]

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@Cakers3 wrote:
@I am still oxox

I understand. Not everyone matches well with a therapist.

Just remember talk therapy will work if you keep an open mind.
A good therapist will see beyond the symptom and help you recover the "why".

You will be ok.

Good luck.

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@Cakers3 Thank you for your kindness

[Cakers3]

@I am still oxox

You're welcome.
Be well.