Re: Please start a wedding registry.

vermint · ‎04-05-2010

It's not "asking for certain gifts", it's letting people know that, if they choose to bring a gift, these are things the bride & groom would like. That way they don't end up with a bunch of stuff they have no use for, and will have to spend time returning.

I was grateful for every single wedding gift I received...but there were a LOT of them that were never used, and were eventually donated.

GenXmuse · ‎05-15-2016

Not sure why her being a Mrs. is throwing some of y’all for a loop. We don’t know her situation and it’s not relevant to her general question. Never mind, some of you just like to pick.

Anyway, registries are as old as the hills. Why shouldn’t qvc have one if they are so inclined?

willomenia · ‎07-31-2011

Playing house means they already have a house or apartment set up. Showers were originally because the girl from her parents to her new home with nothing. Btw, who cares if you get the same thing at your shower or as a wedding gift, it's a gift.

Mominohio · ‎08-08-2010

@willomenia wrote:
Playing house means they already have a house or apartment set up. Showers were originally because the girl from her parents to her new home with nothing. Btw, who cares if you get the same thing at your shower or as a wedding gift, it's a gift.

Well I can tell you who cares, I do.

If I'm spending my time and money to gift you something, I want it to be the 'perfect' gift. I want you to love it, and for you to want it and not have to return it. I don't want to spend my money to have something donated because it wasn't what the person needed or wanted or liked.

A gift registry does just this.

If I or anyone else feels a gift is not warranted because of someone's lifestyle (married before, living together, or already has everything) then you either don't gift or you give money or something, but I can tell you, very many people want a registry to pick from rather than try and guess what to buy someone for their upcoming occasion.

And a registry isn't a requirement for gifting, it is actually there to make it easier for those who wish to use it. But by all means if a person wants to buy something different and take their chances that their time and money isn't wasted (like they know the person so well they know the gift will be a hit), then that is always an option, as is deciding your values don't agree with the way people have been living, or what they have been doing, and no gift at all is what you deem appropriate.