Q Talk

[LadyAlice]

@SanFerryAnne - No one is guaranteed tomorrow. You might have meant well, but we are adults here — not children that need a scolding. Life is not easy for many of us irregardless of our age, marital status, having or not having children, etc. We do the best we can even with the interruptions in our lives, whether it’s dealing with caring for a loved one, dealing with pain, etc. Yes, it’s good to “purge” stuff, but not compassion for others.

[In Nebraska]

I read an article about Melissa River's, Joan's daughter, the other day and she talked about going through her Mother's estate: 

“I remember my mom always saying, ‘Keep what you love and sell anything else. Take that money and, one: Invest it, and, two: Buy things you love, because that’s the same thing as me giving them to you.’ It was such a freeing sentiment. It was so liberating.”

[CalminHeart]

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@SanFerryAnne wrote:

While I agree with you, this reminded me of the time we cleaned out my gramma's home. She was in her 20s during the 1920-30s depression and it affected her whole life. 

We found dozens and dozens of clean plastic containers. She always washed and saved plastic silverware. The list goes on. We all had a good chuckle remembering Gramma. We now lovingly tease Dad because he is a lot like her. I still smile thinking about it.

I've been decluttering my house, donating tons of things to charity or trashing what's junk. I packed up most of the things that mean something, generational items, etc, and put a note with them about why they are important to me. It's fine if my kids want to junk or donate it.

In the meantime, I don't have to dust them.

[Auntie CC]

BRAVO!

[haddon9]

@SanFerryAnne Are you in the process of dealing with a parent's "stuff"?  I understand having to deal with it all.  

My own mother passed almost two years ago.  She had her share of stuff that my brother and I have had to deal with.  It was an eye opening experience. 

She mostly save papers ....receipts and statements....papers going back to the 1950s!  She had bank accounts that over the years were bought out by other banks or financial institutions and it was difficult making head or tails trying to figure out if it was one account or multiple accounts!  She even saved grocery receipts that she put in with her cc statements!  It was such a mess!

It took many days dealing with all of the papers.  We had a short amount of time since she was living in south Florida and I'm up in PA while my brother is in St. Louis. So it's not like we could easily go back & forth.

Next month we will go back to finally sell the condo.  We still have some collectibles there to deal with and have more stuff to get rid of!

This summer I plan to clean up my basement and get rid of a lot of my own junk as well as get many papers shredded.

[Pixie12]

My mother, aunt and uncle took care of my four children for free so I could work.I never worried about my babies. I thank these dear people everyday of my life. I was truly blessed. Dealing with all their possessions is small payment.

[QVCJH]

You're right. I could write a long article about it, but I won't.