Q Talk

[suzyQ3]

@on the bay, I totally agree with your assessment of @terriebear's comments here. Thank you for expressing what I just didn't want to post.

[on the bay]

Thankyou @suzyQ3~

I usually just give everything lots of passes but I just couldn't let this go. I thought maybe I shouldn't say anything either, but I think all this kind of misrepresentation and "snarkiness" really takes away from what is a wonderful group of people who hope to keep enjoying coming here!

And we all have our days, but purposely creating ill feelings and not telling the truth about who they are or how many times they come or maybe changing their name and then changing it again after firing shots on as many posts as they can!, really brings down the integrity and enjoyment of this board.

Thank you for saying what you did. I was expecting (but not ready) to get "slammed" 

p.s.-I love your dog!

[suzyQ3]

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@on the bay wrote:

Thankyou @suzyQ3~

I usually just give everything lots of passes but I just couldn't let this go. I thought maybe I shouldn't say anything either, but I think all this kind of misrepresentation and "snarkiness" really takes away from what is a wonderful group of people who hope to keep enjoying coming here!

And we all have our days, but purposely creating ill feelings and not telling the truth about who they are or how many times they come or maybe changing their name and then changing it again after firing shots on as many posts as they can!, really brings down the integrity and enjoyment of this board.

Thank you for saying what you did. I was expecting (but not ready) to get "slammed" 

p.s.-I love your dog!

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My main problem with those posts was what I perceived as condescension to those who come here for friendship and even advice.

Of course we should avoid holing up in front of a computer 24/7, but I gotta say that I do consider many online people to be very good friends of mine. So there. :-)

I love my dog Cody, too, @on the bay. She's a 10-year-old mix of what we think is Rhodesian ridgeback and lab, but until she tells us definitively, who knows? She is as smart as they come (she pees on command) and very lovable yet protective. She thanks you for the compliment.

[SahmIam]

Going back 16 years:

My oldest 2 were in preschool and Home Parties were EVERYWHERE: Longaberger, Party Lite, Pampered Chef, Stamp It Up, scrapbooking... you name it, there was a mom hosting a party. I went to a few and had fun but after awhile, stopped buying anything. I wasn't into them anymore because I didn't need the stuff, nor liked it and felt guilty going and not buying so I said no thank you when the first round came. It took a few rounds and they stopped (no money to be made off of me). The hosts stopped saying hi in the hallways and well....there it was.  A woman I hung out with on the playground often mentioned how much she loved them because she got to socialize and be with her "friends".

You see, the same people are often invited to these shows because they spend money. And you want them to spend money so you the host and the vendor get something....commission as well as free gifts. Whenever another mom walked by, they would be all chummy and smile and wave, etc and she would say "that's my friend SoandSo; she hosted a XYZ party last week". Being honest, I knew quite a few of these women; some were Sales Reps and some were buddies with a Sales Rep; the buddies would call them a good friend and how they always attend their shows/open houses (but never mentioned doing anything OUTSIDE that). Well, a few years went by and I ran into that same woman; we were talking about some of the other parents and I asked how SoandSo was doing and she said, with sadness "Oh, we're not friends anymore. I couldn't attend a big party she threw and I guess that ticked her off because she stopped talking to me. In fact, I never received any invites to her shows after that". I asked her "did you ever notice that if you stopped attending or didn't buy anything, the invites stopped as well as them being nice to you?"

She looked at me and her eyes got wide. I felt bad because I honestly don't believe she realized that she wasn't the one being invited; her WALLET was. How many of use have been there? I know I have.

In the end, if you're buying/spending money then EVERYONE is your friend. When you stop, your "friends" stop too. QVC hosts are your "friends" as long as the money is flowing; otherwise, SEEYA.

[LilacTree]

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@qualitygal wrote:

May I tell you from personal experience, a story?  I use to work in an office that had to send out maintenance people to residents homes for repairs.  The maintenance people would come back and they'd talk about the residents that would pull up a chair and watch and visit with them while they did their work.  There are some people in the world who don't have a lot of people to see and call. The hosts on here, represent that to some of the people who watch the Q. When they see someone everyday that way, and come into their homes via the t.v., it's like their family in a way. I'm home now that I'm retired, and I see the people on t.v. to the point that I know their names. I don't need to know personal things about them, but others who have watched them for years, feel closer to these people they see everyday. This is just my take on it. It doesn't apply to all people, but there's some.  One other person I heard about, use to call the time, just to hear another human voice.

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@qualitygal

OMG, how sad is that?