Mom to Mom

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I was literally a crying fool, with both with my daughter and my son. You would think they were going to live on the moon! We all live in the same state though. My daughter is 3 hours away. And, my son is three hours the other way. Obviously, this state of Texas is too darn big for me sometimes!! I think the only thing that saves me is I think that they could of left the state completely. And, actually I just don't really ever see that happening. Anyhow - it took me about a week with each one - that this is what kids do and need to do - they grow up and they leave and make a way for themselves to be happy and healthy and all that good stuff. It is hard to let go but in the end that is the only way they can really be themselves and move forward. My daughter and I text each other all the time about nothing usually. And, my son likes talking to me on the phone better - probably about twice a week with a text here and there in between.

[LilacTree]

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@tantallum wrote:

From a different perspective, I think you are very fortunate to see your granddaughter off on her adventure at 21 years old.  I am 36, and if I'm lucky I will have a baby.  My sister's daughter is barely 2.  My parents are in their mid-late 60s and they are not in the best of health.  I am sad to say they will likely not be around to see my niece (or my child if I have one) to their 21st birthday.

Enjoy them, and do not be sad. 

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I am grateful for that, I truly realize how lucky I am.  She is not my oldest grandchild, I have two others who are 26 and 28.  I see my 26 year-old granddaughter several times a year and we email, but I have not seen my 28 year-old grandson in a long, long time.  They are the children of my oldest daughter who is estranged from the family.  So all is not perfect.  But who am I to expect perfection.