First I would like for you to treat me like I am your son's wife and the most important woman in his life. I would like for you to treat me like I will be an important in the happiness and success of your son't family and your own family. Treat me like me I have a place in the family.
Second, I'd like for you to like the gift we/I give you.
Third, I'd like a small gift--something you know I would love and a gift card and your sincere and happy wish for me to get something I want for myself. I would hate for you to get me a gift to try to "fix" me or spiff me up or decorate my house to your taste. The best gift would be your acceptance. Even if you have to fake it for the day. It would be a gift to your son too.