Kitchen

[willdob3]

It sounds like your DH wants to lose weight but really does not know anything about what foods are healthiest for him (what is best for one person is not necessarily going to work for everyone) - or what is involved in maintaining a loss. That is hard to learn. It takes longterm lifestyle changes & that is often difficult even for those who successfully lose all they want to lose.

[HonnyBrown]

On 9/3/2014 debc said:

LOL, sure.

Sounds like he's not committed. That's how most diets go, it's pretty hard to actually commit to a lifestyle change. My husband is the same way. I eat a lot of healthy foods with my junk food and exercise. When he gets crazy I hand him a juice.

He will be committed for a short time. The longest was when we did Atkins, and that was 7 months. I was impressed. But he doesn't do a lifestyle change and he goes back to his bad habits.

He doesn't see that balancing good eating habits with exercise will allow him to have that junk food in moderation.

[HonnyBrown]

On 9/3/2014 sidsmom said:

What was his A-HA moment this time? What made him decide this even after his donut purchase?

He's in politics and government. When the new administration takes office in a few months, he wants to make a good impression.

Being healthy was not a factor.

A-HA and smh

Now you see why I'm not making any changes?

[HonnyBrown]

On 9/3/2014 willdob3 said:

It sounds like your DH wants to lose weight but really does not know anything about what foods are healthiest for him (what is best for one person is not necessarily going to work for everyone) - or what is involved in maintaining a loss. That is hard to learn. It takes longterm lifestyle changes & that is often difficult even for those who successfully lose all they want to lose.

Very true!

He did lose weight successfully without any fads or efforts! He exercised almost daily, packed leftovers for lunch and cut way back on the fast food.

It happened slowly, so he didn't notice it until someone pointed it out to him.

He was eating lean meats, a wide array of veggies and whole grains.

But that means nothing because now he has an app.

[expatgal]

Oh well ... apps make it ALL better ... right?

[Doxieluv]

HonnyBrown, I feel for you and your dilemma, but is your husband possibly a food addict? Does he have any emotional issues and is he under the impression that the junk food heals/erases these issues? Did his mother use food to "fix" problems? Just wondering. I have food addicts in my family and they use food to mask emotional problems that they cannot or do not want to resolve.

[HonnyBrown]

Doxie, I think you hit the nail on the head.

A few rounds ago, I suggested he go to Overeaters Anonymous. He looked at me like I was insane.

He has a very unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship with food. I know it stems from his mother. I asked him to get to the root cause of it and he has no desire.

[oceantown]

On 9/3/2014 HonnyBrown said:

Yes, you can. That's what yo-yo diets do. I see my husband do that every year, though it's not 70 pounds. He doesn't gain it back in a week, but it comes back with a vengeance.

This morning, he said he wanted a jelly donut. He didn't eat any carbs yesterday, so that will be okay, right?

smh

Does he know that having that jelly donut will just make him more hungry?

For me it took a while to get past the carb (sugar & grain) cravings. It is different for different people probably, but for me it was about a week I think.

Even now, in the morning if I let myself think about it, I could really go for a nice piece of toast with peanut butter & honey, lol.

My breakfast is usually two scrambled eggs. Satisfying and delicious. I can add onion & green pepper, etc., or just plain. Or maybe with a little cheese. Or maybe top them with La Victoria Green taco sauce. Or a little salsa.

[ChynnaBlue]

Good for you, Honny!

[ChynnaBlue]

On 9/3/2014 HonnyBrown said:

Doxie, I think you hit the nail on the head.

A few rounds ago, I suggested he go to Overeaters Anonymous. He looked at me like I was insane.

He has a very unhealthy and dysfunctional relationship with food. I know it stems from his mother. I asked him to get to the root cause of it and he has no desire.

Then you're definitely right about there being no point in making changes in your cooking or shopping. If he's not ready and willing to make the change, it's not going to happen.