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[RetRN]

How long has it been since he saw her or heard from her?

I guess it is his choice as to whether or not to respond.

[candyagain]

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@Helen Bach wrote:

Husband's old girlfriend texted him tonight and now he's all confused on how to respond.  It was the simple "Just seeing how you and your wife are doing" text. Apparently he still has feelings for her.  What would you as wifey advise him to do?

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IGNORE the text.

When I was married and 7 months pregnant I was contacted by an old boyfriend. That's the advice my mother gave me. She was right! I can only plead hormones and youth for my confusion at what to do.

[dulwich]

@Helen Bach   I think this is a case of what would/will your DH do!

I asked my DH this question - his reply - " I would ignore the message and delete it, would not start any dialogue with her at all unless I was still interested!".

[GenXmuse]

I'm kind of stuck on the "apparently still has feelings for her" part. 

[SunValley]

It would be helpful to have the situation of his feelings for her explained. This is pivotal to forming a helpful, appropriate response. If his feelings are of simple good will that's a different story to feelings of lingering regret or continued romantic interest. One good signal is that he shared the text with you and didn't keep it secret. 

[Catty2]

Ignore the text and block her number.  

[LindaSal]

@Sooner  Your post made me LOL!    Well said.

[Puppy Lips]

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@Mistreatedbycs wrote:

Not much of an ex if she has his cell phone number.

Call Dr. Laura, she answers those questions everyday on her program.

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@Mistreatedbycs Is she still on the air? When and where?

[stevieb]

I don't know enough about the individuals, history, background and so on to offer an intelligent, useful response, but I will say there certainly appears to be quite a few assumptions being made, together with an awful lot of suggestions that feel fearful, threatened, controlling, insecure and even a little vindictive... 

[Sage04]

This ex may be married with a husband and kids. Poeple have had the same number for years and keep in touch. 

An ex called me when my husband passed. We kept in touch at least a few times a year. My husband had also met him a few times. He said something like "I would like to see you. Maybe we can get together."  All I said was "in your dreams." and we both laughed. I know this is different because my husband isn't around but an ex is an ex for a reason.

If the OP does not trust her husband, that's a different ball game.