what would you do if ex-lover texted your husband? - Page 10

Lucky Charm · ‎03-09-2010

@Helen Bach wrote:
You are all so wise and generous for your responses. I can't answer everyone's questions but I was in the same room as hubby when his phone pinged. He offered up the info to me freely. I guess she used the internet to find his phone #, which he's had for 25 years the same #. Especially thanks to those of you who asked their own husbands what they would do! We will see how this plays out but I'd hate to go all Anglea Bassett on him
Spoiler

I guess you have your suspicions that would cause you to think he still has feelings for her as you stated in your opening post.

For me, there would be no waiting to see 'how this plays out'.

I'm thinking you're joking about going 'all Angela Bassett on him'.

?

I realize that there are many married women and men who aren't and don't need to be in love, I seem to get impression here a lot and in RL, too.

But if you are in love with him, I hope that nothing more comes from it (the text) that might not go well and that you're wrong in what you suspect as far as your husbands true feelings about the ex.

FiddleDeeDee · ‎03-06-2020

Late to the discussion:

This happened via a phone call. She was informing DH that he had a child out there and was looking for money/support. DH had SERIOUS doubts about that but listened to the call and then stated he wanted DNA tests done on all 3 of them which he would pay for. She balked, hemmed and hawed and then reluctantly agreed. DH asked her to contact him on his cell (gave her the number) or via our phone when she was having the tests done and then again when the results came in; he requested the results be sent directly to his doctor (he would give her that fax # when the results were ready).

NEVER heard back from her. Took making a few calls but DH discovered he wasn't the only one she had contacted. Even more interesting who she WAS choosing vs who she wasn't regarding paternity. DH knew he wasn't the father. If, by some miracle of God he had been, we would have done the right thing by the child. Who wouldn't? The child didn't ask for this drama.

As for me, it was before I met him. Neither one of us was innocent when we met so, it can happen.

*Four Seasons once again*

chickenbutt · ‎03-09-2010

I feel like an idiot. I just now got her name 'Helen Bach'. D'oh!

Anyway, I do hope things end up ok and it's not anything but a benign greeting.

Porcelain · ‎02-19-2014

@lovesrecess wrote:
How do you know he still has feelings for her?

I want to know this as well. I assume he must have said he does.

When you’re accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.
"Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anemic." - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr

Silver Lining · ‎04-16-2010

@FiddleDeeDee wrote:
Late to the discussion:

This happened via a phone call. She was informing DH that he had a child out there and was looking for money/support. DH had SERIOUS doubts about that but listened to the call and then stated he wanted DNA tests done on all 3 of them which he would pay for. She balked, hemmed and hawed and then reluctantly agreed. DH asked her to contact him on his cell (gave her the number) or via our phone when she was having the tests done and then again when the results came in; he requested the results be sent directly to his doctor (he would give her that fax # when the results were ready).

NEVER heard back from her. Took making a few calls but DH discovered he wasn't the only one she had contacted. Even more interesting who she WAS choosing vs who she wasn't regarding paternity. DH knew he wasn't the father. If, by some miracle of God he had been, we would have done the right thing by the child. Who wouldn't? The child didn't ask for this drama.

As for me, it was before I met him. Neither one of us was innocent when we met so, it can happen.

WTH ?!?