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[Witchy Woman]

@Foxxee 

Thanks for the good laugh

[mamaslittlepotato]

If he still has feelings for her, as you think he does ( he probably does if you think so), you need to have a good long talk with him and try to resolve things. This is most important because he can ignore her text, or tell her he’s happily married, or block her calls, but doing all of that can easily be reversed if he has feelings for her and decides he wants to see her after all. Best of luck to you. 🌹

[riley1]

He's confused? Have they been texting back and forth before this? How does she happen to have his cell number? 

Your hubby should ignore the text. Imo, she's looking for an open door. Suggest to your hubby he block her phone number. 

[NicksmomESQ]

  I'm sitting here having breakfast with DH & asked him what he would do.He said he would delete the text & block the number.He then said he would show it to me first because there are no secrets between us. Then he asked  why does she have his number in the first place?

[tends2dogs]

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@violann wrote:

One, a very nice woman, has died, and a second is also a musician (like me), and we've enjoyed some nice conversations together.

If SHE contacted my husband, I'D probably respond, and ask her if she'd had her piano tuned lately.

I'd then offer that MINE was PERFECTLY IN TUNE, even after all these years.

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@violann 

[beckyb1012]

I do not see how you jump from your husband getting an unexpected text from someone to his having feelings for her?  His not knowing how to respond is a genuine human reaction with no romantic overtures to it at all.  Personally I would just say we are doing well and I will pass on your message to my family.  end of discussion.  If another text comes in then ignore.   Some husbands certainly would not have told their spouse a text had even come in.

[qualitygal]

@dooBdoo   Smart one.  How did she get his cell number?

[NickNack]

I don't understand why so many people question why the ex has the husband's cell phone #.  I still have the first # I ever had, and I got my cell phone 30 years ago.

[Sooner]

I think we are reading too much into "confused" about how to respond.  Our responses indicate that we are confused.

Do we block the call?  Answer?  Not answer?  Tell her er're happy and block?  Pound Sand?  We don't know.

Me?  I would say "I am so thankful that I finally found the one woman on this earth who is my perfect wife."  THEN block the number. 

[chprsp]

Based on personal experience and 2 years of misery I recommend him saying you're both doing well and then blocking her. She most definitely is fishing.