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[Helen Bach]

Husband's old girlfriend texted him tonight and now he's all confused on how to respond.  It was the simple "Just seeing how you and your wife are doing" text. Apparently he still has feelings for her.  What would you as wifey advise him to do?

[Desertdi]

Best to ignore it........Things could go wrong if you encourage the ex

[San Antonio Gal]

He should reply with a text on how wonderful you all are doing.  Why do you think he still has feelings for her?

[January121]

I would completely ignore the text ..... she’s looking for a negative response from him about how unhappy he is so she can pounce onto the scene once again ... beware!!!!!

[Katcat1]

@Helen Bach   He should answer back that he is very happy with his marriage and it would be best if you do not text/email me any more.

[Witchy Woman]

@Helen Bach 

Ignore.  Ignore. Ignore.

He should NOT open that door.  Now or ever again.

I have personal experience in this area and I can promise you, no good will come from saying anything back.

Ignore.  

[jackthebear]

block

[KingstonsMom]

@Helen Bach 

I agree with the other posters that the ex is fishing....to see if she can worm her way back into his heart/life.

Out of respect for you (his wife) and your marriage, he should NOT respond.

[dooBdoo]

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@Helen Bach wrote:

Husband's old girlfriend texted him tonight and now he's all confused on how to respond.  It was the simple "Just seeing how you and your wife are doing" text. Apparently he still has feelings for her.  What would you as wifey advise him to do?

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Taking one step back, I'd wonder how or why she has his cell number.  Regardless, my initial reaction is ignore the text but if he does have feelings for her that part can't be ignored and needs to be discussed as a married couple and resolved since you sound concerned.

[Mistreatedbycs]

Not much of an ex if she has his cell phone number.

Call Dr. Laura, she answers those questions everyday on her program.