wedding accommodation question - Page 4

Isobel Archer · ‎04-04-2015

I agree that destination weddings exist - and I have attended two. However, in both cases, I was able to stay where the wedding was - not an hour away - which as others have pointed out is inconvenient - for many reasons - not least of which is having to drive for an hour after partying.

I added this not in respose to the OP whom I have already acknowledged was not asking for opinions on destination weddings, but in response to a poster who seems to think I don't understand what a destination wedding is.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

So the OP, the couple, and the guests don't live near close to the resort mountain town venue? If so, then I would say this is a destination wedding, even if it's not out of the country. Very expensive to go.

RainyDayGal · ‎03-09-2010

It is definitely OK to send out "save the date" notices with suggestions for accomodations. Perfectly acceptable. Unless you're willing to put a deposit down for each guest which could cost you a fortune.

sunshine45 · ‎03-09-2010

if there will be a lot of people attending the wedding and staying at the hotel that is further away, perhaps you can get a nice bus or mini-van for them to get to the wedding and to bring them back home? that way they can just relax for that hour on the bus instead of needing to rent a car or worry about the drive. it may be something that the hotel already has OR something the bride and groom could look into. that way it may not be as much of an inconvenience.

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chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

I would find another place for the wedding. You are asking guests to book their rooms, every expensive rooms long before the wedding. I know I wouldn;t do that for any wedding that wasn't my child's wedding. It's tourist season which always a horror show and guests risk having to stay an hour, at least, from the venue. You have to be very close to the couple to go through all that. You can do what you suggest but don't feel bad if a lot of guests say they have previous plans and cannot attend.

KarenQVC · ‎05-13-2010

A rented bus from the motel area to and from the wedding is a must do. That way rental cars and drunk driving can be avoided. That being said, this is a situation that cries out for a VERY limited guest list--very close family and friends--with all the expenses of the young people in the wedding party being paid for by the family of the bride. Otherwise the wedding couple looks self-indulging and grasping. There is still time to cull the guest list to not make people feel on the spot. Destination weddings are just a poor choice.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

I thought the op said the deposit is already on the venue, and that's where the couple want it.

A courtesy bus/van is good in theory, but people like to stay or leave at different times. Also, many hotels will be involved.

When the guests are on the fence about going, the hour drive will be the deal breaker imo.

I really do hope the couple has a good turnout. They should not get upset if people have regrets. It's expensive, and to take the time off.

Lipstickdiva · ‎03-10-2010

I think some posters need to read the entire thread before resonding. The OP already stated they are only inviting nearest and dearest. She has also already stated that they tried to talk the couple out of this venue on this date but they had their heart set on it.

A shuttle to and from is a good idea but I don't know that you will get a hotel to shuttle to a veue that is an hour away from the hotel. Also just a word of advice if you do that, just make sure everyone is clear on what time the shuttle will leave the venue to take guests back to the hotel. We attended a wedding last year and stayed at a hotel that was about 10 minutes from the venue. The hotel provided a shuttle. The wedding ended at midnight and that shuttle left AT MIDNIGHT. Many, many people came out of the venue expecting the shuttle and it was gone. There were a lot of people scrambling to try and find a ride back to the hotel. It was a little bit of a mess.

lulu2 · ‎03-09-2010

@Lipstickdiva

OT but I am so sorry to read about your health problems and scare. I hope you are on the mend.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@Lipstickdiva wrote:
I think some posters need to read the entire thread before resonding. The OP already stated they are only inviting nearest and dearest. She has also already stated that they tried to talk the couple out of this venue on this date but they had their heart set on it.

A shuttle to and from is a good idea but I don't know that you will get a hotel to shuttle to a veue that is an hour away from the hotel. Also just a word of advice if you do that, just make sure everyone is clear on what time the shuttle will leave the venue to take guests back to the hotel. We attended a wedding last year and stayed at a hotel that was about 10 minutes from the venue. The hotel provided a shuttle. The wedding ended at midnight and that shuttle left AT MIDNIGHT. Many, many people came out of the venue expecting the shuttle and it was gone. There were a lot of people scrambling to try and find a ride back to the hotel. It was a little bit of a mess.

Most have read it. Nearest and dearest can mean 10-50+.