Re: wedding accommodation question

esmeraldagooch · ‎03-10-2010

We were invited to a wedding in another state, this is how they handled it.

We were given hotels with rates and advised to book room as soon as possible. The Bride and Groom had a bus pick up guests at the hotel and take them to the wedding and back to the hotel/ bed and breakfast after the wedding.

Krimpette · ‎03-09-2010

My niece's wedding was not a "destination" wedding, but most of us did have to travel from out of town. She was able to negotiate reasonable room rates for us, but we were all still a good distance from the reception. Since we were all staying at the same hotel, she arranged for private transportation for those who didn't want to drive. The service actually used school buses and picked us up at the hotel to go to the reception. Announcement was made at various times during the reception for departure times back to the hotel, including emphasis on when the last bus would be. It all worked out beautifully.

Maybe the guests could all stay at a hotel farther out, but the same hotel, and the wedding party can provide similar transportation for the guests.

haddon9 · ‎03-09-2010

I have three weddings coming up within the next 8 months and all are distance away.

The first is the son of a good friend and former neighbor which will be held in May in SC. We will not be able to attend. I will have to send our regrets along with a gift. It's just too much for us considering that the next wedding will be in NH at a country inn just weeks later. The wedding is in June and it's for our nephew. I'm not sure where we will stay but I'm waiting to hear if a block of rooms will be held at the inn.

The last wedding is in August. It another nephew who is the brother of the one getting married in June. His wedding will be held at a winery in Sonoma, CA. My brother in law is renting a house for us to stay in with him and his immediate family. We plan on extending our stay and making a vacation out of it.

Both brothers and their fiancees' families are from NJ and in the case of one,MA so I had assumed the weddings would be in NJ & MA. I guess the one in NH is close to MA but the wedding venue is very close to the Maine border. It will be a long drive from PA where we live with at least a two night stay.

I agree it is a big expense for guests....between gifts, clothing, travel expenses and accommodations it can get very costly!

HarDee · ‎03-12-2010

Thanks to those who suggested a van or bus to get guests to and from the hotel in the other town. We will do that.

Of course, we are paying for the accommodations for the bridal party. Thanks!

Nuttmeg · ‎03-09-2010

@Plaid Pants2 wrote:
@Kjelle wrote:
@fallsnow56 wrote:
We are planning a wedding for our daughter that will take place in a mountain town during tourist season. We have called hotels and have been told that since this is high tourist season they will not do room blocks or hold rooms like they would closer to town. If we send out Save the Dates early with a site where rooms can be booked in the mountain town and advise to book early are we good? The closest town to the venue is an hour away. Do we attempt to hold rooms there and provide a map to the venue? Thanks in advance. Have never done this before!
I think you should send the cards along with the info on the block of rooms in the larger town and info that it is difficult further in. I think people will understand this but the worst thing that you need to avoid is not providing something like activity and food whenever people will be at the wedding site or attendant activities and there is a gap. They cannot make it back to their rooms to change or for food. Maybe you could book two rooms closer in that are Ladies Rooms. Just a place Ladies can go to change, use a bathroom, take care of babies etc. The uests will appreciate it and think it is a touch of class and thoughtfulness. Guys need a place too, but they are more adaptable. Plus if the wife is okay the husband will be more calm also.

That's a thought, but how many couples would be willing to stay in seperate hotels?

I'm just asking.

This is just a room a lady can freshen her makeup, or change her dress. The real hotel rooms will be an hour away.

This room needs to have an attendant so it is secure.

151949 · ‎03-09-2010

When ever weddings are discussed on this board I am always amazed at the number of posters who seem to feel the sky is the limit on what someone should be willing to pay to be a guest at their wedding.Apparently many of the posters here have unlimited financial resources. Good for you all.

We have a close family friend whose daughter is getting married in San Deigo this summer. The bride's Mom asked me if there was a chance we would go and I said no , we can't afford it for a one afternoon party. She was very understanding and said she is made a list of everyone she wanted to invite but is limited on space at the venue so she is asking all those on the A list if they are planning to actually attend so she can move up people from the B list if they aren't. She said it makes her sad how few of the oldest friends and family can't attend but the bride and groom had their hearts set on this venue in California. That is the chance you take with a destination wedding.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

OP is the wedding and reception in same place? How long between the 2 events?

Mine was back to back at the same venue. No driving or time gap.

muttmom · ‎11-28-2012

@151949 wrote:
When ever weddings are discussed on this board I am always amazed at the number of posters who seem to feel the sky is the limit on what someone should be willing to pay to be a guest at their wedding.Apparently many of the posters here have unlimited financial resources. Good for you all.
We have a close family friend whose daughter is getting married in San Deigo this summer. The bride's Mom asked me if there was a chance we would go and I said no , we can't afford it for a one afternoon party. She was very understanding and said she is made a list of everyone she wanted to invite but is limited on space at the venue so she is asking all those on the A list if they are planning to actually attend so she can move up people from the B list if they aren't. She said it makes her sad how few of the oldest friends and family can't attend but the bride and groom had their hearts set on this venue in California. That is the chance you take with a destination wedding.

I am not at all amazed. Many of us are children of the 60's. We worked hard, invested and saved. We've educated our children and do not feel obligated to them our nest egg. Now that we've retired we are footloose and fancy free to enjoy our retirement.

What I do not understand is why you worry so much about how others spend their money.

missy1 · ‎03-10-2010

@muttmom wrote:
@151949 wrote:
When ever weddings are discussed on this board I am always amazed at the number of posters who seem to feel the sky is the limit on what someone should be willing to pay to be a guest at their wedding.Apparently many of the posters here have unlimited financial resources. Good for you all.
We have a close family friend whose daughter is getting married in San Deigo this summer. The bride's Mom asked me if there was a chance we would go and I said no , we can't afford it for a one afternoon party. She was very understanding and said she is made a list of everyone she wanted to invite but is limited on space at the venue so she is asking all those on the A list if they are planning to actually attend so she can move up people from the B list if they aren't. She said it makes her sad how few of the oldest friends and family can't attend but the bride and groom had their hearts set on this venue in California. That is the chance you take with a destination wedding.
I am not at all amazed. Many of us are children of the 60's. We worked hard, invested and saved. We've educated our children and do not feel obligated to them our nest egg. Now that we've retired we are footloose and fancy to enjoy our retirement.

What I do not understand is why you worry so much about how others spend their money.

Not all the guests will be wealthy baby boomers.